Emotional life of an Asperger

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Hi. I'm an Asperger person, curently in college in Quebec. I have been diagnosed...

Sometimes, even if I have 81-82% in differential calculus (the average of my group is 67% and the standard variation is 22.7%), I want to date a girl with an higher skill in differential calculus that I have myself. I do not exclude girls with an equivalent level of skill, though I will often want to date a girl with different mathematical hardships. (Notice that I don't regard whether she is neurotypical or another Asperger)

I often regard girls that do not possess an equivalent level of mathematical skill as being nearly worthless to my eyes. However, to tell if a girl has enough skill to suit my needs I will often ask these questions in the following order:

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1. What math course do you have?

If it is differential calculus, integral calculus or linear algebra/vectorial geometry, I then pass on to question number 2. (In the college where I am, you would follow these classes in that order: differential calculus, integral calculus and linear algebra/vectorial geometry).

If it is accounting, statistics or no math course at all, I don't go any further.

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2. Do you already date someone?

If yes, I don't go any further.

If no, I'll then ask the next set of questions.

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3. How good are you in differential calculus?

4. How high is your group's average?

5. How much is you group's standard variation?

Since the girls I will probably pick will not have the same teacher as I do... I use the following method to tell whether a girl will suit my needs or not: divide the difference between the grade she has and the average of her group by the standard variation of the group. If the result appears satisfying I will ask her name. Otherwise I will revert to simply a friendship.

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In other words I mix math and love. If I eventually find a girl that corresponds to every criteria I set forth, I will be tempted to say that she is prettier than a deritative of an exponential function or prettier than (insert a term in math, chemistry of physics here).

The questions I ask are:

1. Do I worry too much about math?

2. Is it a normal behavior among Aspergers?

Hello and welcome to Wrong Planet!

It's nice to see a fellow aspie from the province of Quebec. I'm from Montreal (as shown in my location). I know for one thing that Bill Gates (which is highly suspected to be an aspie) asked the same questions to girls he wanted to date when he was younger. I once watched a 1 hour program about him, where they said he valued intelligence in girls more than anything else.

[edit] If you'd like to share, i'd be interested in knowing where you got diagnosed and how many time you had to wait until you received an appointement. I'm not officially diagnosed yet, but if you can refer to a good specialist in the province of Quebec I'd be really grateful.

Um...I'm really not sure how seriously to take this.

However, assuming it is serious, why would they need to have a higher skill in differntial calculus than yourself?

Out of interest, to what level have you studied calculus?

Also, what do you mean by 'standard variation?' I've not heard this in a mathematical context before. I know 'standard deviation,' but that doesn't seem to be what you're talking about here.

I got diagnosed at school.

I, as I favor the "multiple intelligences" theory, say that persons have different types of skills, all of which are worthwhile to develop. So I could say that language ability (one of the seven types I know of - the other ones being math-logic, physico-kinetic, graphical, musical, orientation and relational) can be an intelligence type as one that has a musical type of skill...

By that theory's standards, I value mathematical skill by then.

As for the higher skill, it would be, for me, a way to get help if needed. Also, I would have someone with whom I can share my own math skill. To the eyes of the friends I have I am good enough not to need to date a girl with the same type of mathematical gifts...

If you consider that the ability to derive exponential functions (as well as reverse trigonometrical functions and the Rule of l'Hôpital) as the furthest I studied... consider that I am completely unable to integrate any function, apart from a linear function.

And sorry for the typo, it was standard deviation.

There is a lot more to life than math. It depends on what you want to get out of the relationship. If all you want is help with your math homework, then you are going about it just fine. If you want someone whose company you enjoy, who has good character (honesty, kindness, etc.), someone who shares interests with you other than math, then you really need to chill out on the math stuff and try to think about a potential girlfriend more "globally." People are very complicated... a lot more complicated than their math grades.

Math is my top priority; I consider that there is no such thing as true love, since true love would be free of the bonds of each other's needs.

My life, as I foresee it today, will revolve around math, even when that mathematical knowledge will be used in physics, in which I have no difficulty as of now.

I think you just need to find a different way to ask those questions, unless you are looking for other Aspies who also view the same things you do--they also care about their grades and like it when you ask them how good they are. But not everyone is like that, and you may end up missing your chance with an intelligent NT. But if that's the kind of person you're looking for, then I guess you don't really need much more tact.

I also used to believe that everyone who couldn't do well in math or some other academic subject were worthless in my eyes and not much more than morons. But since it's not really any of my business, I don't put that kind of judgment on people anymore. It might just be that they're not doing well because something in their lives are distracting them. Regardless of whether or not I know people who have good scores in math or not, I do not desire to love them.

By the way, I am a female math student who has taken a moderately difficult differential calculus class and gotten 89%. I also took multivariable calculus, some linear algebra, and I'm now taking a class on partial differential equations, and probably doing quite fine at it.

However, I have no interest in love. If that sounds tempting, I'm sorry.

Ooh, you big tease! Dangle the carrot of 89% and then whisk it away again, just out of reach

They were worthless to me but never morons.

I know that if some people are worthless to me, they may have something (or be) of value for someone else.

Suit your needs? You don't need a girl, you need a calculator. Or a robot. Are you putting us on?
The name of your thread is misleading. Emotional life of an Asperger? Please, get a grip.

Perhaps "compatable" would be a better term to use.



Are you for real? Nearly worthless? Calculate that please. How worthless is nearly worthless? What percent of that nearly worthless human female would have worth?

Oh, duh, I just got it. You are a robot - A350XWB

I think he means that he is not interested in them as a potential match.

Yeah, I think we're dealing with ESL here, so try not to pick apart the vocabulary. But I'm still getting a trollish vibe, sorry.

1. By most people's standards? Yes. But if it really matters that much to you, then there's no point in trying to conform to other people's standards.

2. From the reactions you're getting, I suspect not.

I think the odds of finding a girl who meets your criteria and responds well to your method of approach is very, very small. But again, if math matters that much to you, the odds don't really matter. Either you'll find a girl who's perfect for you, or you won't find one at all.

My husband is brilliant in math and science. I'm just average in both subjects but we are both very, very curious about all kinds of things and go into depth about a lot of ideas and discoveries. Our personalities spark each other. He has other friends to discuss math with and our son inherited this love affair with math, so he has a captive audience for math discussions, as well. He loves talking about math but never once expressed regret about my disinterest in math.

You are either a troll or an elitist as*hole.

Not a bad conversation starter. However, where you're going from there.... I can understand wanting someone intelligent, but there are different kinds of smart. Why do you want to date yourself?


Good to know right off, I have always asked a similar question.


What the hell? Now you are just being creepy. I think most chicks will now run in fear, or wonder if they're on trial.

Try to be a little more flexible, you might be suprised.