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Deinonychus
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19 May 2017, 10:46 pm

no, i do not want children. children cost too much $$, take up too much time. children are emotionally disturbing. and it's just one more thing to do. on a daily basis. likewise i ain't got no clue how to be a parent.

with several brief exceptions, nobody has ever told me they were physically attracted to me or wanted to date me.

and i am trans.

if i had the $$ for children, i would waste it on other things. but i do not have the $$.

the world contains plenty of unwanted children. starving children. child labor. abused children.

why compound the world's problems by adding more children?



Silvermantle
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Location: Portland, OR

25 May 2017, 2:58 am

I was horrified by the idea of having kids... until I hit 30 and BANG! My biological clock or whatever started bonging like Notre Dame. Now I have 3 kids. 2 are on the spectrum. They are amazing, intelligent, creative, witty, and incredibly, infuriatingly annoying. Taking care of kids is lame, so many tedious, thankless tasks. Interfacing with teachers and school administrators is maddening. Do not even get me started about those PTA "female dogs". Having kids, especially the neurodiverse ones, is awesome. I get them; they get me. It's nice to live in a house where it feels like we're on the right planet.



Eurythmic
Snowy Owl
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26 May 2017, 7:40 pm

Nope. Never had any desire, any inkling. I'm too much of an introvert, the chaos and stimulation that comes with children would be too much to handle.



rowan_nichol
Pileated woodpecker
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27 May 2017, 5:29 am

Silvermantle wrote:
Having kids, especially the neurodiverse ones, is awesome. I get them; they get me. It's nice to live in a house where it feels like we're on the right planet.


Just loved reading that last bit.



Umerue
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Location: Scandinavia

27 May 2017, 12:18 pm

Silvermantle wrote:
Taking care of kids is lame, so many tedious, thankless tasks. Interfacing with teachers and school administrators is maddening. Do not even get me started about those PTA "female dogs". Having kids, especially the neurodiverse ones, is awesome. I get them; they get me. It's nice to live in a house where it feels like we're on the right planet.


I wholeheartedly agree. I have three kids on the spectrum, and I like living with them. I don't like kids in general, but I enjoy spending time with mine, especially when they got old enough to express their thoughts. I'm still working on that with my nonverbal boy, but we'll get there one day. Their questions are very interesting, sometimes fascinating. I'm quite bad at tedious tasks of mothering, (game time rules = who cares, eating balanced diet and tasting new things = hell no!...) but I think I'm good at explaining NT world to my kids. It's very comforting to come home where NT world is the strange place.



Capulet
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Joined: 30 May 2017
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Location: NJ

07 Jun 2017, 4:58 pm

I've always been on the fence about it. Then I recently acquired step kids which I'm still trying to wrap my head around. Which reminds me I wanted to post on here asking if there are any other step-parents.


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QuillAlba
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07 Jun 2017, 5:05 pm

Nope.

No desire to have little copies of me, none at all.

I wouldn't date anyone who had children either.

Just do not want anything to do with being a parent.

I babysit, always have since I was about 14, any family member knows I'm there if they need me and I'm great with kids, I just like giving them back too much to have my own.