Self Appraisal of Attraction

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This is specifically to the same-sex attracted people:

Do you feel you have a good sense of how attractive you are physically? Many of us struggle as we're not attracted to our own sex but I was wondering if it were any easier if you were? I suppose looking at ones self sexually could be like looking at a close relative and your perception of attraction is skewed or you could be too self critical/involved to acurately say but obviously I have no idea! What do you think?

Nah - I think I'm weird looking. Pretty sure it's not something you can objectively measure, as you look at yourself differently to how other people look at you.

I've also always thought I'm weird looking lol...
I can recognise parts of myself that look good but a lot of the time I am confused when people are attracted to me because I just don't see it O_o

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Your Aspie score: 155 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 57 of 200
You are very likely an Aspie

I think I'm moderately attractive for the most part, except whenever my hair is messy and I'm having bad acne.

I always felt I compared very unfavorably with others of my gender: I wouldn't be attracted to me so why should someone else be? So I spent a lot of my early life pursuing physical improvement, a "hobby" I eventually came to loath and react against. Then I tried seeking out others who were specifically attracted to my flaws, a practice that may have short term benefits but doesn't lead to satisfactory long term relationships. Finally I was old enough that I could just retire gracefully from the scene and forget how I looked. Whew!

Speaking only for myself, the intersection of my personal appearance and my sexual interests have often been quiet narrow.

After all, sexual desire is generally about desire for the other person. What has attracted me about my partners over time has often been about the attributes that they possess which I lack. We may as often find ourselves in a compatible relationship because the other partner complements our own strengths and weaknesses. That compatibility will often long outlive the, "heyday in the blood."