"You Should Be More Discreet"

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Has anyone ever told you that you should keep your sexuality "in the bedroom?" I have heard that countless times and it really irritates me!

I wrote about it here.

https://dwarren57.wordpress.com/2016/04 ... _discreet/

Very problematic assumptions when people say that.

not explicitly, but maybe in their head...i'm straight.

this reminds me of a time my sister came out to our old school family. they took her inside and told her thst she had to respect their...beliefs.

one of them came out crying, and it wasn't my sister.

But my bedroom is tiny.
I can't help it if my sexuality leaks.

Right, their "belief" that she is the devil's spawn simply because she is who she is.

Only one time comes to mind. I'm not very "flamboyant" or obviously gay. But yeah, my father made a comment about how I should keep it to myself at work (construction) & I was like, I get it.. I do - but c'mon, it's 2016 - it shouldn't matter one way or the other. My mother and sister who were present at the time agreed with me. I still don't really say anything about it at work, but I don't like the whole "shouldn't" say anything about it thing.

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I got this from my mom shortly after coming out, but I just ignored her~.

Ok you got 2 types of people, old school and just straight up homophobic. My parents are old school so they don't even like saying heteros all hot and heavy like that in public and will get annoyed and say something like "get a room" or whatever. They are especially bothered when they see gay folks doing it but thats mostly because they're christian and it bothers them a lot. My brother is homophobic and one time he saw 2 dudes tongue kissing at the entrance of the mall and legit went to the other entrance to go in o-o

No one has really said it out loud to my wife or I before, but we used to get a lot of flack at church. (We used to be Mormon.) I would sit on her lap during get-togethers and even got pulled aside to be told how I shouldn't be doing that anymore, and how it looks bad. HAH! Religion...

I can't really help being openly gay, tbh. I love how I look, which is exceptionally butch lesbian. (Shaved undercut, no makeup, baggy tees and jeans, relatively low voice, swaggering gait.) If anybody doesn't recognize me as a lesbian out in town, then there's more often something wrong. XD Thankfully I live in a fairly small town and everyone's pretty much used to the way I look, act, and dress. This town was sort of conditioned to look the other way when they saw something peculiar.

...All except for the time I was making out with my wife (gf at the time) at the riverside, and a guy floating on a donut did a double take at us, looking at us like we'd just murdered a kid in front of him.

It's ridiculous to me because, whether they realize it or not, straight people are constantly saying things that directly or indirectly reinforce their sexuality. And while I get saying "don't talk about sex" that applies to everyone. The other problem is they they're sexualizing it, straight people often act like being lesbian/gay/bi/pan is something entirely sexual and therefore inappropriate to discuss. Yeah, lots of us gays have sex (not me lol! but lots of us), but for most of us sex isn't the entirety of our orientation anymore than it is for straight people and they just don't seem to get that.