any women here who have never dated, never had a boyfriend?

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This thread makes me feel like I'm a an unlovable freak. There are only a handful of other women in my circumstances?

What's wrong with me!! !?

I'm inclined to believe that the difference between the number of men who haven't dated and the number of women who haven't dated would be similar to the difference between the number of male virgins and the number of female virgins.

There are probably more chronically single males, but not as many more as this site seems to depict. To start with, there are probably more guys who frequent this site by virtue of there being more males diagnosed with Asperger's/Autism. I'd also guess based on my observations that guys who are in the throws of perpetual singledom are more likely to post on forums about their situation.

Boo: I also see males do it nowadays. But it's definitely far less common.

Hurtloam is right - there aren't many women here that visit the Love & Dating section first place.

So, let's beg the question.

Why wouldn't there be many women in a Love and Dating advice forum, that exists to provide advice relating to dating or relationships?

Is it possible it's because aspie women tend to not NEED love and dating related advice in the first place, i.e. because they don't actually struggle with love and dating, or at least are happier being single than men are?

Why else would there be so few who visit this sub-section?

But, of course, it's not 'black-and-white', and there may be any number of other reasons - female users are rare here in the first place, maybe they're just not interested in visiting even if they do have relationship struggles, etc.

Forget about the fact there's more aspie men than women for a second - the gender ratio isn't THAT big, certainly not enough so that the vast majority of people chronically single and miserably lonely are only males.

I remember the gender ratios something like 5:1, but the amount of single men here complaining vs. women feels more like 50:1.

"This thread makes me feel like I'm a an unlovable freak. There are only a handful of other women in my circumstances?

What's wrong with me!! !?"

Nothing at all, consider it a good thing.

The amount of young girls and women I see today who appear and claim to be completely 'content' with focusing on their education/careers despite the fact university is an over-priced gamble and we're heading for political, social, economic and environmental collapse down-the-line anyway is absolutely ludicrous.

Kudos to you for actually being interested in something that is perfectly natural and human.

^^ maybe we missed out those who post frequently on the Haven too.

I would bet that there's NOTHING wrong with you, Hurtloam.

Also: WP is not male-dominated; there are plenty of females on WP.

Yes Boo I did say that. You'll never guess. The loudest, most defiance, I'm OK on my own friend is now in a serious relationship.

It's all about saving face. Women don't want to be seen as weak and needing a man. They don't want to be seen as pathetic and lonely, so they put up a strong front, a wall.

Which I think puts men off. Its a vicious circle.

And they say men have male pride.

Maybe it's the female pride which is more apparent then.