How to make friends without having a car

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I'm going to turn 25 soon and I have no car or job yet. But, how can I make girl or guy friends and come out of my shell in my situation? What would you do if you were me here? For the past years I have literally done little more than sit in my bedroom on my PC and not getting out of the house that often. I feel like I have been sheltered.

i have no car no friends no job no gf and i swear i have never had a cell phone. i have one at home that looks like this one, tho.



but it's white not black, and mine looks a little bit different.

it looks more like this one except the one that i have has more buttons.

I really like a saying popular somewhere which Fnord quoted here once: “He who walks, walks alone”. I also think it’s important to emphasize the leading pronoun is he—it’s not she or any gender-neutral one.

Having a car and no friends is better then having friends and no car.

I beg to differ.

But his position in life will certainly limit his opportunities and those willing to accept him.

You've got to work on improving yourself K-Kelly.

By finding work, getting a car, etc.

Do you still live at how with your parents?

Having a car opens up more possibilities ten a couple of friends, particularly when it comes to school, work, accomplishing goals and getting a girlfriend.

Its part of growing up/becoming independent. And unless your cat 2 or 3 autistic one should operate on the belief you can do it, not the opposite.

I know that owning a car creates more possibilities, but what if it turns out that I can't drive at all? I am kind of scared of learning to drive too sometimes.

Yes, a car is more useful, but in the context of this thread I take 'better' to mean 'brings more happiness and enjoyable experiences, short-term or long-term'.

And for some, strong, meaningful lifelong friendships will bring far more overall subjective happiness than a $250,000 dollar, 3,000lb+ machine.

Some would be happier after work and on weekends knowing they had a friend's house to ride their bike or walk to if they wanted to at anytime, instead of "driving around aimlessly to sit around drinking coffee at cafes, watch the sunset alone at the beach, go to lookout spots and/or get drunk".

He should buy a car and learn to drive anyway, and seek friendships at the same time.

K_Kelly:

I know how you feel.

If I were you, I'd buy a second-hand car anyway, even if you can't drive and even if you're afraid of it.

My plan is to do this in the future.

Even if I end up owning it for 2 years but still never driving it because my Anxiety is too high, at least I'd always have it with me if I ever wanted to learn.

The only real problem is actually still having people in your life who can teach you.

Your parents will get older and/or not have the time to, and paying for lessons with an instructor is more expensive and more pressure.

Have you looked into disability services?

There's some here that are designed specifically to help people with disabilities learn driving and get their license. I'd think a disability driving instructor would be easier to deal with and more fair than one who's not trained to teach those with disabilities to drive.

The basic process is get your learners permit, and then find someone willing to teach you (family, friend) or take driving course with professional instructor.

You can make friends with a car; you can't make a car with friends.

True, but the Romanians are are reportedly close to a breakthru on that.

I've worked plenty of sh_t jobs (minimum wage), and most of the men I worked alongside may not have had cars, but they had friends and girlfriends/wives.

Having a car is less important than having social skills.

Kelly,
This is less to me about comparitive values then living. Trust me, at certain times and in certain places, a loaf of bread has more value then a man's life.

As an Aspie there will be things you can do and can't do. But that list is unique for each one of us.

You must try to avoid considering everything by default on the 'can't do list'. That's self limiting. Instead think of everything on the 'maybe' list. It will be up to you to give things a try, and maybe another try later on. Persistance does work. There will be things you know you just can't do, and I am not advocating forcing yourself. Accept it and perhaps devise an alternate path to your goal. Or change your goal.

Anyway, you should give driving a shot. Maybe lessons. My Mom did the lesson thing and got her license in her 60's. She decided it wasn't for her in the end and never drove afterwards. But you know she succeeded in a way, she got her license.

I'm not a real Motor-Head but think cars and driving can be very cool.

This has always been my favorite Queen song. Very cool video too. And its actually the drummer doing vocals.