Aspergers and Sexual Harassment

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What if that's just the direction his seat is facing, and he would look more awkward if he stared at a wall or moved his head in circles.

I’m serious.

I wish people would remember to differentiate between being creepy and being a harasser. In my experience harassers are people who generally have higher social skills and use them to belittle others, try to get them to do stuff, or just generally make themselves look relevant. It is bullying using sexuality as a weapon, or using power to try to bully someone into sexual situations.
Just because you make people uncomfortable because you are not great at social interactions that does not make you a person who sexually harasses people. In most cases I have seen socially awkward men bullied constantly sexually by men and women at work, jokes about them and stuff. This is sexual harassment and no one ever said anything about it.

They should probably learn some self awareness. I agree with the above post. It’s not harassment. It’s just unpleasant.

Some of this is certainly true, but I'm sure many male Aspies have been regarded as weird, strange, creepy, just because we don't make eye contact well. I speak as someone who works in an Office which is 2/3 female. If you don't yatter on or talk to them you are often regarded as in someway odd. To many NT's you are unacceptable if you do not interact with them as much as THEY want. Some seem to have a childish 'look at me, look at me' attitude (I'm talking about middle aged people here). I have been accused of being disrespectful for not acknowledging the superior rank of people I was simply not talking to because they are unpleasant people.

Everything you describe here has happened to me repeatedly in social situations. It's not exclusive to male aspies. Autistic women exist too.

I've had insults thrown at me from women, simply because I didn't talk to them. Alot of times it's seemed like women were mean for absolutely no reason, I've never had this experience with other men.

I think it's because us aspie guys are naturally quite passive socially, and some women somehow interpret that as being rude or arrogant.

wilbur......

wilbur who?

I don't doubt Aspie females have the same problems. There is really nothing more gossipy or bitchy then a gaggle of NT females with too much time on their hands. Interestingly, I had less trouble when In worked with an all-male team. These were, however, more senior men, who were almost as un-talkative as me.

As an adult aspi woman who has held 30+ jobs ( mostly due to getting paranoid and quiting); I can tell you this is not true. People are still jerks when they grow up, some of them even get better at it and get more power. Adults still have an unwritten social power structure, and some of them are still flat out dicks, and the ones who do it right usually have the most friends.

As a group NT women are the ones who I have been bullied by and seen bully others most often. This is social bullying, little digs disguised as backhanded complements and talking behind peoples back and stuff, taking every opportunity to make sure everyone knows when I do anything wrong. This type of behavior can be devastating for aspies. I really hate it. Not all NT women are like this but it only takes one or two in a workplace to really mess up the culture, and they can really make it hard on individuals who they feel socially superior too.

that's why i've isolated myself from all neurotypical women & girls my age,even the chubby ones ,based on how severely awkward i appear to them upon eye-contact,like i would've done back in high-school

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People are dicks in general. What I was saying is they’ve run out of excuses and it makes them generally look bad to unbiased people, wheras at school it might have made them popular.

I’m not saying everyone is lovely, that’s silly.

I find the internet is much more toxic than real life, but maybe that’s just me.

Yes the internet is pretty toxic sometimes. I do find that alot of the worst social bullies are the ones that rise to the top of the social food chain though. Not the ones who are outwardly just mean. There's that other type that everyone loves to be a round. The things they do are more nuanced.

I've been a target for this through my lifetime so much it's ridiculous, and I can't be touched in public without having a meltdown.

Is it just me, or are there plenty of f*****g sickos out there who figure ASD women make the perfect targets to sexually harass or assault. Because if they speak out, they're seen as so crazy no one will believe them. This has happened to me more times in my life than I have fingers and possibly toes to count them on, and the trauma from this invalidation is easily one of the top 3 things holding me back in life.