Got that odd feeling again...

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...like something with wings will swoop down, wrap me up, and whisk me away into isolation. Its not so much in my environment though so much as in the tea leaves - ie. just the nuances and the way life is feeling. (don't worry - I don't literally see women as angels, I guess I just felt like explaining what a 'brain on drugs' in the testosterone sense is like for those who haven't been there )

The thing I've wondered about once in a while and never fully understood; what is 'marriage material'? What makes a guy that? Is there something in the way a guy picks up a pen or opens a door that says he's ripe? Is it one of those things where genetics set a hormone into the air that won't occur until some stage in his process in the same way that fatherly instinct gets triggered in the air by hormones from a partner?

Wide open and messy question I know. I'm also not necessarily 'chasing' this outcome, just that from time to time things start to feel as though the shoppers will be closing in. Its really something I started feeling some time last week and not sure where its coming from.

Did you post this in the wrong forum, tech?

Well, it's probably a lot safer to seek out that sort of a feeling from Art, Writing or Music than from love anyhow, Moog.

*sigh*....I'm braindamaged. Must be the testosterone I sighted in the first paragraph.

Agreed.

You cynic

Safer but less fulfilling?

Moving to L & D

Funny, I think it was in the right forum before.

Oh, definitely. I'm just in a rough patch at the moment, but you have to take the bad with the good.

Anyhow, back to the original question, I think being "marriage material" has to do with qualities a person has or develops, but it also has a lot to do with timing. I was engaged to someone years ago and, looking back today, both of us had been right for each other in many ways, but being young and (on my end) lacking in self-awareness was still enough to kill it. Had we been together at another point in time, who knows? It could have been a totally different story.

^what was the original question?

I kinda thought it was this:

Being divorced, I can safely say it has a lot to do with the person you're with and the timing of the relationship, as with everything in life.

Marriage is hard work, and both have to be willing to put in the effort required to keep it alive and healthy. Drawing from this, I believe one is 'marriage material' when they are ready to do this.

oh. i got thrown by the swooping angel stuff

Never been married, but I'd agree this would have to be at the core of it.

i read it i read it

Lol, I hate it when you quote yourself to explain yourself. If you're going to insist on being so confusing all the time, you're going to have to be patient with us.