Do people with Asperger's remain virgins for life?

Post Reply New Topic

Yep...we are at somewhat of a disadvantage socially.

What we have to do is ACCENTUATE OUR STRENGTHS to offset that disadvantage.

Once I read a joke - "If since your last sex there was more time then from birth to first sex - could I be considered virgin again?"
That's more and more like my situation - last time I had sex 5 years ago and now I even fail in dating girls. So this is also possible variant - technically not die a virgin but in fact have no relations with girls for most of life even doing lots of efforts.

That was great to hear

My dad has Aspergers and he has two kids but for me? I am 18 and still a virgin even tho I never tried to lose it because I never thought of it

No but it's infinitely more complicated for us to forge connections (I'm talking from an outlook that isn't interested in casual sex) but those paths do exist if you take the tributaries between that resonate enough to lull you out of the tundras that can settle.

being an aspie myself,the way that i see that NT Women,and Girls (Big,Chubby,Plus-Size) that are rejectful of any guy with Aspergers,basically because of their social interaction difficulties,severely awkward to clumsy social appearance,lack of social skills and they want nothing to do with them because of it,Yeah,they do remain virgins for life.

Meh, getting laid is for eggs and carpets as far as I care.

IMO the measure of a man is in what he's accomplished with his life, not how many endorphin hits he's gotten.

Sex is supposed to feel great, make you feel like you can kick the world's butt, etc etc... snorting cocaine might feel great too, but that doesn't make me want to run right out and do a line.

Now......that's a proposition!

Thread necromancy I see...seriously who had the time to dig this up from the depths? They could have just posted in one of the countless other more recent threads on virginity.

It's harder to date if you're autistic, somebody like me it has always been hard. Growing up autistic, being shy, not knowing how to talk to girls or get dates. I remember when I was younger back in 8th and 9th grade, I would try to talk to girls and message them on Facebook and they would all call me a creep, stalker, that I was ugly and delete me from Facebook and this had an emotional impact on me because I cared a lot what women thought of me. As a result, I didn't talk to girls throughout all of high school because I couldn't have mentally handled their rejection. I just didn't know any better back then, I had no idea what I was doing wrong and why women were avoiding me, I was just trying to be friendly. I just wish somebody would have sat me down and told me the rules and that rejection is apart of the game because it would have saved me years of isolating myself from women.


Being autistic makes it harder to date, that's definitely true. How can you expect to get dates when you have a hard time even making friends? You don't know the rules, you may come off as weird or special or just some random creep. It doesn't help that you look around you and none of the aspie guys you know are any good with women, there's nobody like me to look up to. Out of the 40+ people I know with autism, very few dated in their teens. We're all in the same boat, nothing ever changes among us.


It doesn't matter who you are, everybody looks for love and intimacy in whatever form that may be, it's just for some of us that it's harder because we wernet born to naturally be able to socialize. But hopefully it will be worth it.

Wow...talking about ancient history!

Yeah, I have a well-rehearsed litany of dating advice that for me is fairly standard. I don't mention that dating is difficult, but I do acknowledge that it is. No advice, not me, not anyone else, is a panacea for all your social/dating woes. What I do is lay down a path that, IF you follow it, will greatly enhance your chances. Mostly it's about building morale and confidence, more than anything. I see that as being the biggest hurdle.

The last poster nailed it. Rejection is all part of it. The way I address it is as long as monogamy is your goal, you will have rejected every woman on the planet except one. Don't feel so bad when it happens to you, because that's one more girl who won't be wasting your time.

I obsessed over this stuff when I was younger, too. It took me FOREVER to finally internalize it, but instinctively I'd been practicing this on girls from a very young age. I ended up in some truly awful situations, but getting it right in the end was worth it. I would strongly suggest NOT going down the path I took. Believe me, there are worse things in dating and relationships than rejection!! !