Do people with Asperger's remain virgins for life?

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we all do,every single one of us,and i'm better off as a virgin anyway,that is until i meet a female aspie,if i ever do or i use a giant-stuffed bear as a sex toy (i was 11 or 12 when i first heard it)

I was 15... We don't all.

I wouldn't say that not dating is "typical". Sure, there are a few asexuals/ aromantics among us, as well as individuals with other reasons why they choose not to date or engage in sex. But it's not uncommon for aspies to engage in all types of romantic and sexual relationships.

The most difficult time to date is in your teen years, when your peers are shallow, impatient, and too fresh to have any relationship skills. But if you do some research (flirting, body language, dealing with conflict, fostering intimacy, etc.) you can get a rough idea of how to start. After that it's a matter of meeting people and getting the practice in.

My most successful strategy, personally, is just to go out periodically and meet new friends through mutual friends and/ or shared activities. Eventually, one of those people catches my interest, we get to know each other more, and something develops between us.

It is? That's news to me.



So it actually isn't easy. My current life is actually quite "social"; I now meet people every day, I work as a volunteer where I have to speak to complete strangers, and about a third of the people in town know who I am, but that hasn't improved my chances. It's entirely possible that many have flirted with me over the last nine years since I moved to my current location, but if they did it went completely unnoticed. I just cannot ready "body language", in spite of the progress I have made in trying to improve my social skills, and no matter how hard I try. Some things are just not possible to learn I guess (well, not for me anyway).

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Aspergers is thought to be genetic so we'd be extinct by now if we all remained virgins for life.

Unless it's likely blue-eyes or sickle cell. You get one copy you pass it, you get two copies you express it. Two 'daywalkers' partnered could be passing two copies of the genes to their ASDpire offspring.

Maybe it's not genetic. A genetic link to autism and/or A.S. has never actually been established.

I met a girl a few years ago who was perfect for me to be honest but I know due to my status I could never actually be with her in the way she deserves and so I let her go. But to answer your question yes you will get one at least one, everybody gets ONE. At least thats what peter was told by spidey.

and that’s why i prefer female aspies

Same if I could meet one I would be down for the team instantly.

i don't care where i meet her,as long as she's from New York

I lost mine two months ago.

Never dated one, personally.
Closest I came failed miserable because we were both equally clueless about reading each other and basically 'ruined it' with insecurities and projection before it even started.

i hope to date one someday,and we end up having something in common regardless of our aspergers

I can say, with a degree of experience, no.