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02 Aug 2016, 3:57 am

"Sexual Invisibility: the feeling that one is no longer a sexual being or that others do not perceive of one as a sexual being.:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-robert ... 77298.html

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02 Aug 2016, 4:04 am

So you feel that way?

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02 Aug 2016, 4:35 am

^ It's not always a matter of feeling, sometimes others really do not regard one as a sexual being.

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02 Aug 2016, 4:37 am

^ Okay, so are you one of them?

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02 Aug 2016, 4:44 am

In certain demographics and certain phases of life, I was totally one.

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02 Aug 2016, 4:45 am

^ Me too.

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02 Aug 2016, 5:01 am

Something I've been wrestling with, lately. Thanks for the article!

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02 Aug 2016, 7:06 am

No, I'm not sexually invisible, I'm just asexual. :mrgreen:

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02 Aug 2016, 7:30 am

There are some girls who would like you....because you have a debating way about you.

They like intellectual challenges; they feel arguments of that nature could turn into really hot sex.

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02 Aug 2016, 2:45 pm

HighLlama wrote:

Something I've been wrestling with, lately. Thanks for the article!

How old you may I ask? I read that most men become really sexually invisible past 39.

Tho I think some are born so.

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02 Aug 2016, 3:00 pm

Only paedophiles see babies as sexual beings, so being born sexually invisible is the norm. Sexual visibility has to be earned, and not everyone succeeds at it.

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02 Aug 2016, 3:21 pm

Spiderpig wrote:

Only paedophiles see babies as sexual beings, so being born sexually invisible is the norm. Sexual visibility has to be earned, and not everyone succeeds at it.

lol holy s**t man......I really didn't mean it like this.

It was more like "born destined to be sexually invisible when become adults" (due to certain genetic makeup).

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02 Aug 2016, 3:39 pm

Yeah, I was for pretty much all of graduate school. I don't think anyone there saw me as a sexual being. It wasn't just because everyone was into studying, because they were all into relationships with each other and having plenty of sex. I guess I wasn't a good fit there. But in my last semester in grad school I got a girlfriend and overcame that! Most of them had graduated by then so I couldn't do a "So there!" to them.

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02 Aug 2016, 3:42 pm

Idk. I haven't felt sexual invisability yet and I am 58. I think part is not letting yourself go physically and part is one's attitude about it and what you project. Then again I may be completely self-delusional. :mrgreen:

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02 Aug 2016, 4:46 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

HighLlama wrote:

Something I've been wrestling with, lately. Thanks for the article!

How old you may I ask? I read that most men become really sexually invisible past 39.

Tho I think some are born so.

Sure--I'm 33.

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02 Aug 2016, 5:36 pm

I'm 16 years past 39--and I'm not sexually invisible!

Jack Benny was sexually invisible, though---and he remained 39 for the rest of his life after he turned 39.

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