how do girls signal interest?

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How does one attribute blame though?

Between boy and girl in regards to signalling.

None of my friends have ever done that for me. Is it because they think I'd make a terrible boyfriend, or are they just bad friends?

No, I just understand how difficult it is to meet someone when you're over 30 and i try and create opportunities for people to meet. Most people are paired up and have no concept of other people finding it hard, so don't think to help.

No one does this for me either.

The one you always hear is that a woman will touch her hair if she's into you. Consequently I am hyper-aware of whether I'm playing with my hair while I'm talking to anyone. I feel like a lot of my aspie behaviours, or even social anxiety in general, could be misread as flirting: staring 'at' people (actually through them), shyness, glancing away, fidgeting, giggling, klutzy or ditsy behaviour around them... And as I get more nervous that I'm accidentally giving off flirty vibes, the behaviour gets more pronounced.

Better to just never talk to anyone ever lol.

Hair play I've heard before but it never seemed to be a decent indicator for me. I suspect it's also an anxiety relief thing, like an NT version of stiming. Or to be accurate, I feel like it's not the only thing to look for. Maybe hair play + eye contact + smile or something such.

How does the hair play thing work?

I mean, playing with hair how does it mean something apart from just playing with hair?

It's a preening gesture, behaviour to attract a mate. A healthy head of hair is desirable, playing with hair frames the face to bring attention to it, and exposing the neck is supposedly a sign of sexual attraction.

We're all animals, really.

If she starts playing with your hair, that seems a surer indicator to me .

Here are some ways to tell if a girl is interested over text.


1. You can test to see if a girl is interested by a statement as opposed to asking a question. For instance, saying "yeah I really like playing fetch with my dog out at the park when there are other dogs around" If a girl likes you back, she will reply back with another statement. If a girl doesn't like you, she's not even going to bother and the convo will just stop.

2. Also if the girl likes you she will ask questions as well over text. This means she's interested.

3. She gives you compliments over text.

4. She's receptive to your flirty messages.

Why do women tell a guy she's drunk?

Maybe so that the guy will think she is loose and fun? This is perceived as desirable to some guys.

There is no easy answer to this one, since everybody has their own style. Guys too.

Girl who matched on tinder ,and I clearified I'm looking for a relationship, was messaging and talking about tv shows then she messaged I'm drunk.
I responded with "fun night out?" As I dont know how else to respond. She said " no cousines wedding"

It's funny how all moms' sons are sexy gigolos chased by women all the time.



That sign means "I am willing to give you a head".

Congratulations on being completely inappropriate.

I have no clue how you get from meeting a few girls through shared interests or friends to being a sexy gigolo chased by women all the time. This is what I've observed: my son is friendly and easy going and, I would suggest, somewhat non-threatening to girls. The dates I've known about or noticed were a little quirky themselves. Over 4 years I've known of 4 girls, with varying levels of success when it came to dating, all of whom knew him through real life settings before anyone expressed interest. Hardly gigolo status. I would suggest that is normal for someone selecting dates on compatibility and not looking for the hot chick in a bar. I've also never heard him utter a crass word in his life, or had anyone else tell me he does. I have a clue for you: most women don't like crass and inappropriate. Women do like compatible and friendly.

Resting a head in a lap after hours of working together on something isn't sexual. It is intimate, showing a level of comfort and unconcern about someone taking it as flirting. The drama students I volunteer with do things like that all of the time, just as friends.

Ditto.

Women will flirt or make effort to chat to you in environments where's there's entertainment, drink and where other people are around. You have to be familiar to her and have something called "friends" to pass her social proof. Loner males are obviously "not right" in a females head.

So If no woman flirts, signals interest or show's enthusiasm to get to know you, I'm afraid its a guys physical looks 99% of the time. A man should never whine about it, normies will always deny looks law and say you need magical abilities like the confidence to speak to women, which is what you possessed anyway.

If you misread signals and politely ask out that female colleague, classmate, whatever.. and she say's "no", your magically the "creepy stalker" or sexual harasser who's acting out of line and they now wish you would find another job or just p**s off. Been that guy and its not nice for women not to appreciate you were interested in them. Like anything you say to a woman, it spreads like wild fire amongst the sisterhood and gets the attention of "Alpha males" or orbiting blimp whiteknights the next day, and your the sitting duck for humiliation.

"Move on, find people that aren't dicks to you" I've been told. I've been moving on for decades now.

Lordosis.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lordosis_behavior