Men should advertise lack of social skill in dating profiles

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This thread's hilarious.

Better advice for guys who know they have poor social skills is figure out what kind of women could date them and be happy, then make an effort to go out and talk to that specific type of woman. Being cognizant of weaknesses and sharing them if the 'strengths and weakness' question comes on in a job interview can earn you self-awareness points if you spin it right, when you're being sized up as a potential mate it's just bad all the way around. I don't want to dive off into evolutionary psychology but I suppose if the family was starving or thugs and invaders were threatening the family's safety, 'We're going to die or be slaves but thank God my husband's a self-aware guy' typically wasn't a line of reasoning that would occur to people. It's one of the few areas, perhaps the primary area, where the cruelty of nature pipes most directly back into the cruelty of humanity toward itself.

No offense, but that is a terrible idea.

It seems there's an absolute consensus from all men here that it's a terrible idea to show weakness as men.

Good, the men here aren't as delusional.

In an ideal world it would be practical for people to be painfully honest about themselves.

Unfortunately, rather than living in an ideal world, we live in a world where the mechanics of the fundamental game - selection - work to assure that what's weak doesn't make it into the next generation. If all it meant is that women who didn't want to have kids or were too old to have kids found sweethearts that might be okay but that's not really the issue either as the process itself seems to angle toward not just de-selecting but also taking away status, respectability, and sending people in the 'persona non grata' direction.

There are odd cases where men or women have had their natural priorities significantly changed by certain kinds of life experiences, a guy can show weakness or a woman could be significantly overweight and they'll be attracted by that, but they're in a small enough minority that one won't find them by call-outs and it's still quite dangerous either way to share such things with everyone else who might be reading/watching.

That said I don't at all get angry with the people who don't believe that's happening or who've been taught all their lives, in public education and in their college humanities courses, that this isn't the case - I'm more more annoyed with the people professionally distorting their students' lenses on reality who should really know better.

I grew up in an environment where a lack of social skills -- or perceived* lack of -- was an absolute killer if you were a guy. Girls/women wouldn't touch you with a barge pole, and you'd find them more likely talking to the ducks at the local feeding pond than to you.

(* unattractive / no friends / unpopular = perceived lack of social skills even though it might not be true)

Sly, I’m really sorry, but it’s simply not true that fat men have had the prejudice and societal pressure women have.

People don’t have to like fat women, it’s their right.

I did a social experiment and went into some weight loss centres. Not once did I see one male sitting in there in those crowded rooms.

The pressure on women to be thin is absolutely insane. Look at that jackass sometime world, he doesn’t have to date fat women, but he also treats them as lesser people, or disgusing creatures. His opinion is extremely common in men.

Men and women aren’t the same, each has their own difficulties.