Those who are/been in love, did you follow mind or heart?

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For those of you that were in love, which did you follow, your heart or your mind? Do you think the other way is bad? Should you have done it the other way? Do you think you should follow both?

I'm curious of everyone's opinion!

I think the human condition is that of coins flipping between both states of being as long as one is unsure.

So heads:your mind Tails:your heart?

I once went with my heart and zero rationality. It killed relationships.
I once went with my mind and little compassion. It made relationships boring.
Absolutes where they needn't apply can be detrimental. I say rely on either/both as and when.

Heart! As Carson McCullers wrote, "the heart has its reasons that the mind cannot know". However it's not always one or the other, but a balance between a number of factors.

A little bit of both. There are people who are attractive, but who you eliminate because you know they will break your heart. And then, very seldom, you meet someone who just speaks your language, and who seems kind, and at that point, the mind goes.....

I'm not sure if the deep feelings I had for certain guys were love or just a really strong teenage crushes, but which ever they were, my brain sure took a vacation at the time when it came to them. My heart seemed to take the lead completely, with hormones as its sidekick... but it didn't lead anywhere. I wonder if I had been able to confess or even get together with one of the two had I used my head and thought things through more rationally when dealing with them.

Both. I made the decision when they agreed.

Wow, love is a confusing thing! I wonder for the people that say follow both, how did you figure out when to follow your heart and when to follow your mind, sounds like a very hard thing to balance out.

Heart always.

Both in equal measure.

Yes, I did.

I originally tried to follow my mind; that is, tried to force romantic interest in the people I found myself connecting with intellectually. That didn't work.

For a while afterwards, I tried to follow my heart: that is, tried to force an intellectual connection with people I was interested in romantically. That didn't work either.

Now, I listen to them both. It's rare that they agree. As a matter of fact, it's only happened once so far. But the person they've both agreed on seems to feel the same way about me as I do about him. We'll see what happens from here.

Don't take any actions if they disagree. Wait with important decisions until they agree.
Review your own logic and dig into your feelings to find the sources of disagreement. Their fundamental conflict is a myth, all your feelings, reasoning and intuition give you important information, you should miss none of it.

I tended, in the past, to let Him guide me a little too much.

Therefore, neither the Head nor the Heart had any input.

Just pure, foolish lust.

I follow my testicles.