elbowgrease wrote:
I think you have to try to make your boundaries clear and make it known that you won't be ok with it if they're crossed. Early on.
I agree with this. Make it clear that you want and need a certain amount of privacy and give him actual examples on what it means. If he can't accept these things then try to work out some kind of compromise. If you can make one yet he constantly breaks some privacy rules you two have agreed on then he's not the right one for you... in other words you should leave him.
As for how to
find a guy that is likely to accept your need for privacy (which I assume is above that of an average woman)... well, if they mention that they like to have their privacy than it's a good sign. It's not always the case, but from what I've seen people who have a big need for privacy are more likely to respect other people's privacy than those who don't have it. Other than that you can't really know without getting to know the guy.