Awkward miscommunication(s) - how to speak NT?

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Ask her out for “coffee.” That will get the ball rolling.

And do try to reestablish text contact.

This is the only way this will go beyond the “subtle flirting” stage.

I guess that's all down to having more to text about. I'll plan on asking her in person when we can get a minute to ourselves. That said perhaps I've been enjoying the subtlety too much, you don't think there's any way to intensify that a bit instead?

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I would be less subtle in the “asking out”—but return to subtlety afterwards.

I'm sure I'll manage to blurt it out whenever I get the chance, what's tricky is acting like it's no big deal. I did get coffee with her once before so I guess that can't be a bad sign.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Would anyone preface this with an "I miss you" text?

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I might say: "I miss talking with you," rather than say "I miss you."

Some women like it when a man "misses" them. Some women don't.

Then I guess I should make that subtler on my part. I'm wondering what I can do to make it all seem more casual.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Your seeming "casualness" might put this person off.

I believe you should express your interest in her in some way.

Tell her you really enjoy the conversations between you two. Tell her you've learn lots from them.

I have the feeling some autistics express interest way too clear, and some are so subtle not even the KGB could figure out what they are feeling. Which camp do you fall into? Do you know?

I'm in the too subtle group for sure. I need to be more clear about my appreciation but I can't be too intense about it. It's her presence in my life I appreciate the most, we really should talk more.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

^^^Perfect masturbatory material.

Sometimes, I might think of some motorcycle mama or something. People I would never get involved with. Too freaking cynical, usually.

I like the flowery dress type of girl....yet who speaks her mind in graceful ways.

Just be direct with her----at least at the point of you asking her out.

Say that you're delighted with her company (which is the truth).

I can't see why any woman would be turned off by that.

You have a point, I should fixate on being more positive towards her. There is the question of how to be the right amount of subtle. I guess you wouldn't say we're typically romantic types.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos