Has anyone tried a disability dating site?

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No, because I'm not disabled I'm an AS sufferer.

Put another way, I'm not disabled just different.

Ed Almos

One definition of a disability is "any restriction or lack (resulting from an impairment) of ability to perform an activity in the manner or within the range considered normal for a human being." Some of the diagnostic criteria of AS sound a lot like disabilities. They even use the same terms (restriction, lack, impairment, ability). I guess what I'm trying to ask is this: Why doesn't it count as a disability?

I've known so-called "NT" people who have used these with some success. My buddy's sister is getting married to some guy she met on a dating site. I think it's the people, not the method of dating, that determines the success of the relationship.

NTs with learning difficulties are the polar opposite of an Aspie intellectually. Though this might not seem the case from a NT prospective, I got recommend recommendations to go in Stars In The Sky dating agency. They had a documentary in the BBC and it was awful to say the least.

The worst thing is that my workmates the smartest one(who knows me a little better then the rest) the other in the office and the most beautiful( who thinks I have a awful taste in woman) watched the documentary and recommended that I go.

I really want to commit suicide.

Wanting ain't enough.
Give it up, 'tis better to
live, until your time.

Its not working out on these sites. These girls are more or less NT, and I really can't connect with them. I suppose. I feel fortunate that my largest problem is with relationships. I can function ok in life. It is just near impossible to build relationships with NTs.

I don't need someone to survive, but I would really enjoy having someone in my life. Oh well. A lack of a woman isn't a reason to kill ourselves. We just have to change our perspectives.

I agree 100%.

Tim

theres a few of them but their all unpopular. dating4disabled.com is the best one but theres not many aspie girls on there. someone really needs to make a popular dating site for socially inept people. it should make a lot of money if advertised right.

I'm on dating4disabled as well. I'd like to really strongly insist that we (Aspies and neurodiverse people more generally) are, and should identify as, disabled people. Being disabled for me isn't a negative identity, it's a positive one in defence of acceptance of difference and diversity - people who see it as negative usually believe in the medical model of disability, whereas i believe in the social model of disability:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_model_of_disability

I prefer not to use the Internet as a dating site, whether it is a disabled site or not.

good point...its just not...face to face
ya know

Prospective, like trying to change the prospective of having a tooth ache. Is there a way of psychologically tricking millions of years of evolution is such a way that the tooth ache melts away.

Also, meant but forgot to put in my last post:

is a bit of an oxymoron...

(I kind of take your point about "polar opposites". There are people with neurodiverse conditions (eg Down's syndrome) who have kind of the opposite distribution of abilities to people with AS - ie averagely good at social/non-verbal stuff, much worse than average at memory and verbal/written communication - but, IMO, they have similarities as well - certainly, for me there's a strong identification/solidarity with anyone whose distribution of abilities is significantly different from that called "NT", in whatever direction, because the same types of oppression, social exclusion and lack of understanding of our needs/abilities/differences happen to all of us...)

I didn't see the documentary about "Stars in the Skies", but it sounded interesting, altho from their website it did look like it was particularly geared towards a certain section of the "learning disabilities" spectrum, namely those with verbal/memory/"IQ" deficits but more NT-like social attitudes. I would rather be involved with organisations of all types of disabled people rather than those exclusive to particular impairments...