Conflicting Interests in Relationships

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I just don't want to be in a situation where finding someone with the same interests will involve giving up my religious and political beliefs.

I agree with you, but it's like the liberals are writing me off because I'm conservative.

I doubt they all are but even so, do what my sig says. (Say "sig says" for a cheap laugh. )

That being said, you are supposed to love yourself whether anyone loves you or not.

I'm not one of those Christians, yet people jump to conclusions regarding this.

People liked me better when I was pretending to be a left-wing revolutionary.

If you've been scared by a clown, it doesn't matter if it is the same clown later on - the reaction often remains. How can anyone reasonably expect others to perceive their differences automatically?


M.

Tradition and what is percieved as such is done by society.


I reject this notion that society will determine what I should find as accepting..

I rather go by what is relevant to me than what is percieved as the 'in' thing to do...

If the traditional thing is becomming the way of the past, the crowd can go run with that....
I am considered by some peopel to be 'old fashioned' I supposed that would of been normal in like a time like 3 or 4 changes of tradition ago...

I rather exhibit my individuality.... than to conform to something I am not, the general populations interprettion and concept what is the current trends...

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So it is OK to fib a little about your beliefs to gain acceptance but you are only looking for an Aspie as a girlfriend because you believe only an Aspie girlfriend would be more truthful with you?

Be yourself. I think you are learning how "closed minded" some people can be that claim to be "open minded" and liberal. Be honest and let the cards fall as they may. I have many of the same beliefs as you. But, my attitude is that, there is only one of me in this world. Yeah, there will always be someone better at something I can do, but put everything together, and I am one of a freaking kind. Tough to label a unique individual and it helps in resisting those nasty labels.

Personally, I have had more people tell me that I am a bad person because I drive an SUV compared to the number of times I have been told, "I will go to hell" by a religious person. (Yes, Oggleus, son of a preacher and lives in the bible belt).

Good luck.

Why not just go to a church social or something? I'm not even a Christian and I've been noticing that on my university, there are a LOT of Christian-oriented events going on, regular meetings, ice cream socials, and all that designed to attract young 20something Christians looking for a date. If your church has these, then you have a better chance of finding a woman whose values will match yours.
That's the best suggestion I can give, since the idea of "traditional" dating makes the bile rise in my throat and I don't know much about it.

The thing is that I also require anyone I date to be an Aspie, but there aren't any who are conservative Christians with the same interests, and the liberal ones don't want anything to do with me because of their generalizations about conservatives.

You need to change your mindset about dating then if you expect to ever find someone. You might be surprised, your dream girl might turn out to be a neurotypical vegan from the Toltec religion. But if you limit yourself to these narrow definitions, you're doomed. Perhaps I'm a bit too romantic, but I think what's in her heart matters a lot more.

I have worked on personality, I have been very goal-oriented, and working on myself extensively.

But all the liberal Aspies see is that I am conservative, and they write me off because of that one thing.

They think all Christians are like Fred Phelps.

The reason that neocons don't watch the Simpsons and South Park or watch comedy or indie/foreign films is because of the language and content that they think is offensive. Asking a neocon "Wanna watch the Simpsons and South Park?" is no different than asking them "Wanna use drugs?", "Wanna get drunk?", or "Wanna fornicate?"

My interests tend to coincide with those of "hipsters", but that (and the fact that I think it's ok to have sex outside of marriage) turns off neocons, and my conservative beliefs turn off the hipsters.

I don't consider myself to be a hipster, though.

Having similar tastes in tv shows isn't the end-all determination to love though. My boyfriend is a huge Star Trek fan, reads comic books extensively, and his hobby (as well as life calling) is theoretical physics. I am someone more grounded in the humanities and literature, especially that of Japan and Russia, who hates math and physics and never thought I'd ever date someone who dabbles in Quantum Mechanics for fun. But we still get along splendidly and find much to talk about.
Not to mention, considering the amount of "South Park Republicans" I've met, you might be in luck more than you think in that regard.

When I talk about South Park, neocons think I'm the Antichrist.

When I talk about Christianity, hippies/hipsters think I am a bigoted, intolerant prick.

It is not possible to be a neocon, a Christian, and a hippie or hipster at the same time.