Has anyone else felt like social outcast/misfit?

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24 May 2012, 12:53 am

yep for sure! i live with my NT parents and NT sister, my brother is also an aspie but diagnosed.
I am finding even at work i am seen as 'off with the fairies'
uni isnt as bad because not alot of people seem to be talking to random other people, but the thing that bothers me the most is people thinking i am not capable of understanding them!



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24 May 2012, 5:25 am

I don't just feel like a misfit, I feel like I am of a different species. I do not fit in anywhere.



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24 May 2012, 2:41 pm

I am a social outcast, but more so in the past. I grew up in a small town where everyone knew everybody, so it was hard/impossible to find a group of like-minded friends.

These days I am still a bit weird. But not as much. I work with geeky people and I love that. They're way easier to talk to for me, and they are a bit weird themselves so I feel more at home. I would love it if I found someone who's an apsie at work, though...



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24 May 2012, 3:00 pm

Yeah, that was my life until I was taken out of highschool. In the 6th grade my mom even had me throw a Halloween party and invite people, some came but then I was never invited to another party before or after and I think I invited everyone in class. Always felt excluded from stuff and like a outcast, no matter what I go. I even feel that way online.



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24 May 2012, 6:35 pm

Call me Misfit, for I've long been a square peg trying to force myself into a small, round hole.



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24 May 2012, 7:32 pm

Every day of my life i feel i dont fit in. I always feel like i am watching from outside. Once in while i get brief feeling of belonging but it is fleeting, never enough for me to really feel the sense of belonging.


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25 May 2012, 9:25 pm

I was bullied a lot when I was in elementary & I was an extreme loner in school after that.


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25 May 2012, 9:47 pm

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25 May 2012, 10:57 pm

Story of my life, always the outcast or misfit, I can really relate, even as of now



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02 Jun 2012, 1:09 pm

Deep inside I have always felt a social outcast in life. During high school, college, and even my previous job, lots of people (although they treated me kindly externally) never bothered to invite me to their parties or social gatherings. Whenever I asked them if we could hang out sometime, they would directly say "NO" or that they were very busy without something else. What was also worse was that they would castigate me for saying or doing things that I thought were harmless or inoffensive, BUT they took as a major offense.

I'm gonna move to a different city for grad school in July and I'm reading AS social skills books so that I can make and maintain friends, and avoid frequent disasters in social interactions and relationships.



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02 Jun 2012, 2:28 pm

Is this a rhetorical thread?



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02 Jun 2012, 2:50 pm

redrobin62 wrote:
I think that 99% of the folks on WP, including me, feel the way you do.


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06 Jun 2012, 8:33 am

NeueZiel wrote:
Yeah, that was my life until I was taken out of highschool. In the 6th grade my mom even had me throw a Halloween party and invite people, some came but then I was never invited to another party before or after and I think I invited everyone in class. Always felt excluded from stuff and like a outcast, no matter what I go. I even feel that way online.


Same thing happened to me when I lived in Sweden (9-11 years old) but that could have been because I was the foreigner?



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06 Jun 2012, 9:28 am

Only sometimes... other times I don't.


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06 Jun 2012, 11:27 pm

RESOUNDING YES! :(



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10 Jun 2012, 8:59 am

In the past - before coming to university I was certainly seen as a bit of a "weirdo" amongst quite a few at school and sixth form - though I did happen to have one group of friends I fell into (one of them is also on the spectrum - so that helped) , helped by the fact we were all into computer hardware at the time.

People are much more tolerant however at uni - and the weirdo issue hasn't been much of a problem , seeing as most people have outgrown the "popularity contest" stage which is what a lot of being at secondary school (in the UK) is really about. I owe a lot to a NT friend of mine who pushed me into getting a diagnosis for AS particularly - things have been working out much better for me since I'd been in denial for a long while.