Has anyone else felt like social outcast/misfit?

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yep for sure! i live with my NT parents and NT sister, my brother is also an aspie but diagnosed.
I am finding even at work i am seen as 'off with the fairies'
uni isnt as bad because not alot of people seem to be talking to random other people, but the thing that bothers me the most is people thinking i am not capable of understanding them!

I don't just feel like a misfit, I feel like I am of a different species. I do not fit in anywhere.

I am a social outcast, but more so in the past. I grew up in a small town where everyone knew everybody, so it was hard/impossible to find a group of like-minded friends.

These days I am still a bit weird. But not as much. I work with geeky people and I love that. They're way easier to talk to for me, and they are a bit weird themselves so I feel more at home. I would love it if I found someone who's an apsie at work, though...

Yeah, that was my life until I was taken out of highschool. In the 6th grade my mom even had me throw a Halloween party and invite people, some came but then I was never invited to another party before or after and I think I invited everyone in class. Always felt excluded from stuff and like a outcast, no matter what I go. I even feel that way online.

Call me Misfit, for I've long been a square peg trying to force myself into a small, round hole.

Every day of my life i feel i dont fit in. I always feel like i am watching from outside. Once in while i get brief feeling of belonging but it is fleeting, never enough for me to really feel the sense of belonging.

I was bullied a lot when I was in elementary & I was an extreme loner in school after that.

One of the best rock n roll albums ever

Story of my life, always the outcast or misfit, I can really relate, even as of now

Deep inside I have always felt a social outcast in life. During high school, college, and even my previous job, lots of people (although they treated me kindly externally) never bothered to invite me to their parties or social gatherings. Whenever I asked them if we could hang out sometime, they would directly say "NO" or that they were very busy without something else. What was also worse was that they would castigate me for saying or doing things that I thought were harmless or inoffensive, BUT they took as a major offense.

I'm gonna move to a different city for grad school in July and I'm reading AS social skills books so that I can make and maintain friends, and avoid frequent disasters in social interactions and relationships.

Is this a rhetorical thread?

Only sometimes... other times I don't.

RESOUNDING YES!

In the past - before coming to university I was certainly seen as a bit of a "weirdo" amongst quite a few at school and sixth form - though I did happen to have one group of friends I fell into (one of them is also on the spectrum - so that helped) , helped by the fact we were all into computer hardware at the time.

People are much more tolerant however at uni - and the weirdo issue hasn't been much of a problem , seeing as most people have outgrown the "popularity contest" stage which is what a lot of being at secondary school (in the UK) is really about. I owe a lot to a NT friend of mine who pushed me into getting a diagnosis for AS particularly - things have been working out much better for me since I'd been in denial for a long while.