mistaken for pedo for trying to protect kid

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24 Apr 2017, 7:25 pm

Several months back, I was invited to watch my little brother's outdoor basketball game. Sports aren't really my thing, so I had trouble focusing on what was happening (even more than usual). I looked around, and I noticed a little girl playing on the monkey bars. There was something about the way she was hanging that made it seem like she was about to fall down. I didn't think anyone else was watching her with the game going on, so I decided to be her unofficial guardian until the game was over. Then my mom pulled me over and bitterly told me stop what I was doing because I could get arrested for being that close to a young child. I'm usually not the kind of person to argue back when people question my behavior in a way that borders on brow-beating, especially since experience has taught me that doing so only infuriates the other party even more (rule 14, anyone?), so I reluctantly backed down.

With all that said, my question here is what should I do the next time I'm in a similar situation? Should I watch over kids in danger that I just met and risk getting harassed for seeming like a pedophile? Should I ignore said kids and risk getting harassed for letting them injure themselves? Or should I just stay an introvert and risk getting harassed for not spending enough time outside with other people?



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27 Apr 2017, 3:00 am

What I would do is pretend I don't notice them. I don't like kids & I'm not their parents or guardians & I don't bring kids anywhere so I don't feel like it's my responsibility to look after any unless it's an emergency life or death situation.


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27 Apr 2017, 6:56 am

...more evidence that we all live in a POLICE STATE full of modern-day Nazi-COMMUNISTS (fascists). The fact that «innocent» people like you are forced to worry about cops arresting you is PROOF of an «insane» society.


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27 Apr 2017, 7:21 am

Kind-natured people like you are falsely mistaken for peadophiles these days. It's how society has become. It's really ridiculous.

I respect you, and anybody with good intentions, for caring about the safety of a child. You are a kind, thoughtful person. :)


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27 Apr 2017, 3:30 pm

LonelyJar wrote:
Or should I just stay an introvert and risk getting harassed for not spending enough time outside with other people?

This one every time! If you add staying indoors by yourself, it mitigates the risk of getting harassed at all!



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28 Apr 2017, 8:38 am

Just watch the kid from a distance next time.

You have good intentions.