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Why do you call yourself a short fat bald ugly man? Why not a handsome man or something like that?

Zach, what happened to your statement about being tired of my threads?

zach

short fat bald ugly man

"short" refers to vertical height. not subject to interpretation.

"fat" refers to percent body fat. skin calipers, underwater weighing. different methods of measuring percent body fat. but my percent body fat is not particularly low

"bald" refers to hair length

"ugly". seriously, i find almost everyone neutral at best. many are ugly. few are handsome or physically attractive.

you (the collective "you", as in anyone) can twiddle your thumbs and claim everyone is smart, special, and beautiful.

but anyone can say anything.

quite frankly, i find almost everyone i have ever interacted with, including myself, to be academically stupid, visually ugly, inherently worthless, and boring.

but that is vague and subjective

everyone can disagree with me.

it does not matter what i think

it does not matter what anyone thinks

Yesterday on the bus, a woman told me I was staring at her. She told her son not to sit next to me. "He might be a paedophile or a fa***t".

And her boyfriend/spouse had the nerve to tell me "don't look at me, gay guy".

But if they were not looking at me, how did they know I was looking at them?

Besides, on the bus, when I sat facing forward, I was facing them. While they were seated facing the sidewalk.

Not every "fa***t" is attracted to everyone the same sex. Just like not all heterosexuals are attracted to everyone the opposite sex

Everyone "might be a paedophile".

Paedophiles come in all sexual orientations, not just "fa***t"

She did not necessarily sound homophobic just because she said "fa***t". A dude was standing right in front of her, wearing gay pride rainbow shirt and sunglasses. She did not harass him

Oh well whatever

Maybe I ought to be glad nobody raped me yesterday

(Rolls eyes)

And I do not know who to tell this to. As long as they did not rape, physically injure, or kill me, it is (more or less) ok with me

Tolerance

Compromise

"Pick your battles"



But I do not want to tell the counselor about it

Because whenever I tell the counselor, the counselor says it was "unfortunate" or that she was "sorry"

It's so dramatic/theatrical



But maybe the job description stated that saying things "suck", are "horrible", "unfortunate", or "sorry" is the correct response......

You can't measure how bad something is

Maybe counselors find it better to overestimate than underestimate.

If counselors underestimate, that looks like "you did not seem to care"

Like everything is, and must be, an emotional rollercoaster. At all times

Otherwise it is "cool" and "great"......



Oh well whatever........

Precious lil "people" have egoed so big that they truly believe that they are morally entitled to get whatever they want.......

Zach, I am sorry this is off topic but I love your profile picture being that I love cats.

Please don't...

Hugh

Society has its own definition of beauty.

The media (magazines, tv) features a disproportionate number of actors and models that are conventionally attractive, in that they are white, skinny, tall, not deformed, and look healthful.

Yes, some models and actors do not match that description, but no very many. Furthermore, when actors and models do not match that description, there's a particular reason for that. They are making a specific statement.

Granted, beauty standards are different in different countries and different years.

But you can't measure beauty.

It does not follow, however, that everyone is "beautiful"........ or, even, that everyone is "beautiful".

My entire "life", only four precious lil "people" have told me they found me physically attractive. At least one was homophobic. Two (looked like they) were under 18. Since I was over 18, I could not have interacted with them anyways. One was 61 when I was 21.

Hugh

You (Hugh) and I are a tiny (and sometimes neglected) portion of "society"

You (Hugh) and I do not a "society" make

If everyone is "beautiful", then what is so great about being "beautiful"? Dualism



lookism



The conventionally attractive get treated better than the unattractive

By society....



Anyways......

It's just one "miscommunication" after the next.

Hugh

At least once each, someone had the nerve to tell me that I was "handsome", "pretty", "beautiful", "cute", "ugly".

All those adjectives are superficial and judgmental and condescending. Positive or negative

The other thing was that they acted, like I was so stupid, that I would believe everything they told me

And that is an implicit insult to intelligence (my unpopular opinion)


Besides what is so great about appearances?

Maybe it is what is on the inside that matters.

But the world is superficial

"If you can't beat 'em, join 'em".....

But oh well whatever

They did not do anything illegal

And if they did, what could I do? Tattle to 911 or civil lawsuit. Not many alternatives

Some precious lil"people" are not worth the energy it takes to interact with them.........








Seriously


Besides, being judgmental is a Myers Briggs type. And I do not have the right, authority, or power to change someone else's Myers Briggs personality type

And if I did, then they still would not be worth the cost benefit analysis anyways








Pretty much anything that involves two or more parties has the potential to become a huge hairy deal.......

At this point, I pretty much hate and fear almost everyone



On the bus some dude told a stranger to say "excuse me" because the stranger wanted the dude to move the dude's bag off the seat, so the stranger could sit down

And I was watching, like wtf



And the dude (who was already on the phone) told whomever he was on the phone with, that someone disrespected him by failing to say "excuse me"


And that dude is, by far, not the only one like that


Everything appears fine and nondramatic and then someone (such as me) allegedly says or does the slightest thing the speaker does not like, and it's an entire theatrical production, of a Grammy and Oscar winning. Caliber



Drama, theater, emotional



Like a professional actor






For that reason, among numerous other reasons, I usually avoid interaction that does not have a functional reason

I am thinking of starting a new thread. I am just suffering from an achey head so I need to rest before I can post again.

hugh

at this time, for you, that technique might be the best technique.

at other times, for you, that technique might not be the best technique.

for others, that technique is not the best technique.

the "best option" is still not a perfect option.