Do you have friends?

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I have a friend in another country, but haven't met up with him for over a year -- the logistics are difficult.

I have another friend elsewhere in this country, but again the logistics are difficult. We haven’t met for several years, and now only exchange birthday and Christmas cards.

Not really. I get on well with people and try to make friends, and I think people probably do view me in a positive light nevertheless.

I really, really want to make friends, with whom I can go out and do stuff like drinking, clubbing, and having fun (doing things neurotypical people my age do).

I’d really like neurotypical friends. I do have Asperger’s friends. I haven’t had friends since I was 11 (in 2010), when I moved to Edinburgh.

nope

No close friends, and I prefer it that way.

But I would like to have better people skills in general, so that my interactions are more in the 'neutral to positive' range, and less in the 'negative' range.

Something to work on in 2018!

Some very close friends, some normal friends, some acquaintances. Some of them moved away, but I still get to meet some of my friends once a week.

I have two (not counting my Husband). They're both incredibly busy with their lives these days so we don't interact much anymore and I rarely see either of them.

I met them over 11 years ago. I met one through an old online friend that lived further down the state, and the other through an ad looking for someone to join a group with similar interests. I call them my best friends, but they're my only friends these days. The other friends I had turned out... BIG SURPRISE... to be using me. Pretty standard. Even one person who I thought was my best friend for 15 years turned out to be lying and stealing from me the whole time. Broke my heart. It was like getting a divorce. We'd been through LIFE together, you know? We were attached at the hip, she helped me through so much in my life and I'd helped her. Idk, after that I stopped trying to make friends.

My friends include:
- The girl I met when I was six because we lived in the same apartment. She is a psycholog now and has always been a quirky but extroverted person.
- The girl I met in elementary school. She has similar issues like mine (ocd, add, social problems, anger problems) but she is not autistic.
- The guy I met in elementary school. He is weird.
- The girl I met in highschool. She is my closest friend. And she is open to all my idiosyncrasies and very supportive.
- My adopted cousin and my sister. They have always been there for me.
- My boyfriend. We're from the same planet.

Apart from my boyfriend I only see them once a year if not less. I don't need somebody to be constantly with me but I'm happy to have so much support.

I feel the exact same way. I'm always alone and it seems like no one ever wants to interact with me and get to know me. Whenever I try to make friends I always fail and get made fun of for being socially awkward.

How absurd. Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it will work for anyone else. You can't assume that every single Aspie out there is identical. Everyone is different and not every person is going to have the same things in common, regardless of whether they are on the spectrum or not. Why the need to go to an Aspie meet-up just to find friends who will "accept" you for who you are? Do you think that every single non-aspie is going to turn their back on you? That is absolutely not true. It's about finding the right people in life who will treat you with respect and isn't such a self-centered prick.

Find something you're passionate about and see if you can join a group that caters for people with that particular interest. Meet each individual one by one; dig through the cancer and find the ones who are worthy of your friendship. If all goes to custard, ditch the group and find a new one. If you find yourself that desperate for friendship and go for the unpleasant ones, such as the ones who backstab, all for the sake of having a friend, don't. People like them will drag you down to their level and will bring out the worst in you. Seek out the ones who possess the true qualities of a friend. May not happen right away but it will happen in time. Be patient and do not give up.

These are just my two cents on this. If you feel that joining an Aspie meet-up is the ideal thing for you, by all means go ahead, but don't do so because you feel obligated to or someone else tells you to do so. That is a completely different story, my friend.

If you're struggling with initiating friendships with people, then PM me. I'll do my best to work something out. In the meantime, don't stress too much about this. It's not the end of the world.