Friendship requirements

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What would people say were the requirements of friendship? What makes one person a friend and another person not. How do you determine if somebody is your friend?

Android

Thats a toughie. Generally, if someone is kind to you, they are your freind. If they back u up no matter what, they are your freind. Etc.

And what makes it even more confusing is that I think one can have different types of friendships....ie a close friend, an activity friend (one you do stuff with but don't connect much outside of that activity), a "fun" times friend, etc...


BeeBee

I would say in the few friendships I have
had it is give and take. If the person is
using you, then no! Give and take is about
communication, sharing thoughts and ideas,
and basic being there when the other person
needs you.

I would say a non-genuine friendship involves
"what is in it for me". This and the autism
spectrum makes a bad combination.

For example:

1)...The autistic spectrumed person wil develop
knowingly, or not a dependency on things it can
trust not to hurt or betray. let's say one's
computer is the safest, and with people, I am
listened too and they will be accepting of me
in my true form.

2)...The non-friendship situation, is "ME-ME-ME".
I will slightly feed you compasion but it is by
my rules.

That is all that comes to mind for now.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

Anyone is my friend as long as they are nice to me. If they are rude, disrespectful, and they ignore me, then they are not my friend.

Loyal. That's all it takes.

If they aren't well they must have several other damn things good about them to be my friend.

They have to respect you for who you are and they need to be nice to you. They need to be there for you.

Trust and mutual [admiration/respect].

EDIT: And with this post, Pyraxis finally gains her third dot!

A friend is someone you can trust, who will stand by you even if you're fighting with each other. A friend is someone who you can talk to about stuff and know he won't throw it back in your face or try to use it against you.

/me has to be hit over the head with the Friend-Brick to know when someone is my friend. I have still been trying to decide on my definition; especially between acquaintance and friend. That one is a toughy.

trust. and then shared interests.

my friend definition is similar to vetivert there. can make acquaintances easily with people of similar interests who are laid back enough to find me entertaining rather than just weird, but friends are hard to come by.

Dunc

What's trust without loyalty?

They may never lie to you, and keep your secrets.. but they may ditch you in favour of somene else on your birthday.

Friend = When I no longer have to pay them to hang around