high school & college "social scene"

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Hello
I'm new here, my name is John, and I'm currently 18. I'll be going to college next year, and sorry if I ramble, one thing I've never really understood is the "social scene," the social interactions, cliques, "in" vs "out" crowd, slang that mean typical things with adolescents.

I look at different groups of people, different subcultures, now I know some terms like "preppies" "goths" "jocks" etc. I know that people often dress certain ways and talk in certain ways to show they belong to a certain "crowd." They form frienships based on what "clique" they belong to, and interact pretty much only with people from that group, with exceptions.

Sorry, I'm just rambling on incoherently.

My question is, is there some good introduction for adolescents and young adults on how to fit in with others and make friends? Or something that explains about different social groups of people? I don't know anything about different social gropus.
It could be a book, online information, article, or anything else. I wish there was some kind of introduction to how to talk to other people my age, and make friends with them, and different expressions and slang people use.
Just kind of expressing my concerns, any ideas or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your time,
John

Yes, BE YOURSELF AND THEY WILL
FIND YOU through your talents and
strengths that lie within you.



Congratulations! What is your major
you are targeting?



Dont' bother, the people right for
your talents and strengths from
within within will find you. Don't
try to convince others you are
a good person, they will see your
character, morals through time
and patience.



Smock! Shluck! Poo!, YOU ARE NOT
a sheep. Be true to your character,
and things will fall in place.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

John, I am not sure how helpful this book will be to you as I have not read it yet, but:

Suceeding in College with Aspergers Syndrome by John Harpur, Maria Lawlor, and Michael Fitzgerald

Here is a website to read a bit about it, but you can probably find it cheaper on another site:

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book.php/i ... 4310-201-3

Good luck with it!

I'm not going to rant about my opinion of social statuses and "cool"ness, but I have one piece of sarcastic, yet true advice. CONFORMITY IS GOD OVER SOCIETY. That's just a taste of how much this world's social expectations sucks.

I've tried to figure that out, then I realized that most people in high school are idiots.

I've always been told college is supposed to be better in that regard. Less cliquey, more diverse, etc.

Well, here's hoping!

Hi John, be yourself is probably the best advice I can give you - that way only people who can be bothered geting to know you matter. This guide by Marc Segar may be useful though: http://www-users.cs.york.ac.uk/~alistair/survival/

Dunc

Just be yourself is my advice.