How can you tell when someone is gay?

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Umm, Gaydar, as in the two lines prior to the one of mine that was quoted - and the earlier posts.
It definitely exists, but (unfortunately) it's not infallible.

I don't think it's a conscious thing. You just "know". I've heard of the study mentioned above as well. I don't know how good I am at it, as most of the time it's impossible to confirm.

Here: http://www.scientificamerican.com/artic ... -that-face

Ooh, interesting link. Thanks!

It certainly operates on a sub-conscious level, and I couldn't even begin to describe it beyond 'something about the eyes'.

When they f**k people of the same sex.

Well, there is that - but knowing beforehand can only help, either way.

i am aware of the term "gaydar" but that doesn't make me any less in the dark about how gaydar works- surely it cannot be one of those things akin to the heisenberg uncertainty principal compensator that makes sci-fi teleportation work, in that when asked how his fancy transporter device works, the transporter technician says, "very well, indeed."
so my question to those who are proud of their keen sense of gaydar, is- "can you impart your wisdom on the rest of us who lack gaydar?"

this reinforces my view that everybody other than me, is psychically gifted and can read minds somehow. why was i excluded from the party?

Hah, I wish.
That, and that it was 100% accurate.
Come to think of it, actually going out might make it more useful for me too.

Rule #1: Assume that everyone else knows, and behave accordingly. It avoids all those tense little coming out scenes.

Rule #2: Assume that everyone else is, too. Especially if he's cute.

Seriously, though, the best way to find out if somebody is gay is to ask him. (Now if only I could put that sage advice into practice. grrr.)

I've actually always followed rule #1. It's too much effort to pretend to be something else.

Yes, this has worked. Just once, but it was well worth it.

Animals have that gaydar we lack. mhm. We humans need to see action before realising it's there. Wait, humans have that skill? Why am I missing my gaydar then?!

just as in other areas of existential success, the folks who have the right stuff just don't get the folks who don't have it, and vice-versa. the folks who do have the right stuff are not concerned with the fate of those not so fortunate. it seems that for many folk, it takes a catastrophe of some kind [they lose their gifts] before they can understand what life is like for merely mundane mortals. the difference between the gifted and the mundane is close to the difference between a flatlander and a 3D being [google edwin abbott], in that the two types effectively live in two separate worlds, with minimal cross-realm communication. just my 2-cents' worth, not adjusted for inflation

Oh, believe me - my 'flowering time' was very brief and I've long since 'gone to seed'.

omg your so young ...



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it's easier then... I hope???

I didn't realise or want to realise at 14.

I certainly did things to mask my sexuality, when I was playing rugby.

The likes of eyeing up ladies, even though my pants weren't sparking.

But yeah it wasn't hiding my sexuality so much, because I hadn't had any gay experiences to arh, prove my sexuality, not that a sexuality needs proving, but perhaps it did in my mind, way back when .

I am older than you, I would usually ask them what bars do they go to find out whether they are gay or not.

but at your age... arh............ be gay I say.

my exgf in primary school was a tom boy, was fun, she would borrow my shirts, we would wow, tackle and things together... hmmm I kind of wonder now, if she, has, you know, changed sides, changed to the better side