Has an instructor ever HATED you?

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I swear, from day one, this instructor just had it in for me. I don't know what his problem is, but his body language, his tone of voice when I speak to him, his expressions, his mild sarcasm, his terse way of answering anything I ask when I deal with him one on one, his refusing to look up from his Ipod when I come to his office, his snide little "Hi..." when he sees who it is... there's no denying it- he has something against me. I've wondered if I said something to offend him, but I think back on the few conversations with him and I can't imagine what could've been said wrong. I watch him with other students and he's himself, all gestures and humor and easy going. With me.... ugh. I try to be friendly, but it's just gotten much worse.

I'm trying to switch out to another instructor's class, one who I've already spoken with and told him the situation. He's also, coincidentally, the head of the department, so the complaint's already been lodged in a sense. I just don't know what he has against me. This has happened to me only one other time, (two if you count a situation with a supervisor.)

Does this ever happen to you?

It has happened a few times...

I've had many people (that we call experts) in job centres, on training schemes, courses, just drop me for no reason, no explanation. I'm still struggling to understand why. I guess its just the NT way. It is time these experts stopped their mysterious subfertuge and had their jobs taken off them.

I once had a teacher in a private school who wanted me gone, so she lied that I had threatened to poison her. The people in charge believed her.
She got her way and I was gone.
Such an action is unforgivable, but no matter how much I wanted to track her down and remove her eyes with yogurt spoons, that was unavailable to me.


School sucks.

I think you are supposed to show deference in subtle ways when speaking to people in position in "authority".
Otherwise, they feel threatened and react defensively. This defensiveness may in turn be seen as aggressive.

This include teachers, civil servants, PAs, etc. Whoever can make a decision that can make your life easier .. or harder.

I normally tend to treat everyone in the same way, which means I also used to get in trouble with these people.
It is now much better, as I am conscious of this issue, and therefore adapt my behavior for the interaction to be more productive.

When I was about 15, many teachers did not like me. I guess the constant questioning of so-called "obvious" assumptions was not welcomed. The exception were hard science and mathematics teachers who actually enjoyed it (with one notable exception). I suppose teachers in these areas are naturally more attracted to "truth" than status.

The interesting bit for me is that the same questioning behavior was welcomed by all when I was a smaller child (6-10). I guess at that age, it is cute and is not mistaken for teenage rebellion against authority,
I wonder if by disclosing autism, I would get the same sort of allowance as an adult for curious behavior. This way people would know that I am not playing mind game or trying to embarrass them.

.... The only problem is that is what everybody is claiming (not to play mind games, and not to try to embarrass people) .....

I never ask questions in class, go to office hours, or otherwise have any real contact with the professor so it rarely happens to me but it bothers me to even go to that class when it has happened to me (2 times).

I'm not a question-asker either (there are exceptions: I tend to ask "why is this not true?" a lot in linear algebra, but that class is just counterintuitive): I think it's just due to that there are people in most of my classes who actually ask good questions, and I don't feel like competing. That being said, all the teachers I have had in high school and college who hated me hated everyone else. So I think this bogs down to an English teacher in ninth grade and a drafting teacher in tenth. For the drafting class, think of /b/ on 4chan, but in classroom format and with grades determined by how much the teacher likes you. Somehow I managed out with a 'B' because I could actually do technical drawings, unlike half my class.

Abraham Lincoln once said: "Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power". I found this out when looking up quotations about power because I was trying to understand why the head of the department I am in seems to really dislike me. Right now, I'm avoiding her. I peek around corners to see if she's coming and walk past her office with my head facing the opposite wall. The best advice I've got is to avoid this instructor as much as you can without actually dodging into empty classrooms. If you can find anyone else that your instructor is not treating right, go to someone higher up (together) and lodge a complaint. You would think that "successful", well-educated people would stop acting like middle schoolers, but that's just not the case. Good luck.

I've had it the other way around, I can't stand the teacher at all (though I don't think he liked me much because I wouldn't follow his little mind games)