AS vs HFA quietness

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It seems there are might be differences to why people with HFA and AS are quiet:

Aspies: are quiet due to feeling to uncomfortable to talk, or being unable to find the spot in a conversation to start talking, or being to anxious to say anything, so they are quiet.

HFAs: just don't seem to want to say anything, either because they feel no desire to participate or because they are content keeping their side of a conversation internal

So, what’s your diagnosis and how do you usually think when you keep quiet?

I’m an Aspie but while I recognise that I have the AS reprocity problem, my thinking is as described above as HFA.


SD is self-diagnosed.

Last edited by Skilpadde on 16 Nov 2009, 10:02 am, edited 3 times in total.

I chose SD and think like AS because even if I don't want to say anything, I am keenly aware that I'm supposed to be participating and wish I had something to say. It makes me aware of my social deficits in other words.

I'm Dx'ed with AS and have aspects of both, though leaning more towards the HFA side.

I sometimes feel I would like to be less quiet but I simply cannot think of anything to talk about with others. I definitely have a sense of thirst for emotional connection but the ordinary conversations that come up are never satisfactory enough to satiate it. I'm not sure where I fall.

wtf??? another one?? STOP TURNING MY OPINIONS INTO BOGUS THREADS.

Depends on the situation. If it's something I'm totally uninterested in (group critiques), I might try to sneak a book in and go off into my own little land, but if it is something I'm interested in and knowledgeable about, I'll speak up, and if it's something that I find interesting but have not researched fully, I'll try my best to keep my mouth shut.

How is this bogus? I think it's very interesting to see how we differ in this and the connection to diagnosis.

Since I've read books written by experts in the field who seem to think of AS as someone who's only inept not some one who is both inept and aloof, I thought it would be interesting to see how many other who fit or don't fit into that category and the other one in my other thread.

Like I said in that other thread:

Hey, Skilpadde,

followed your link over here...

I don't know what SD refers to??

About being quiet... Well, I'm rarely quiet, lol. I always have something to say.

Okay, there are moments and conversations where I don't feel I have anything to offer. But I usually leave when I realize it. Otherwise there're the situations where I'm in the audience and not supposed to say anything, or I'm there to learn from what I hear. In these situations I keep quiet and listen ... I may still have something to say, or more often something to ask, and if chance is given I will; otherwise I'll write the speaker afterwards.

... What is SD??

How about the type of aspie, who can't shut up?

SD means self-diagnosed (as opposed to an official diagnosis from a psych or neuropsych etc.). I added SD to see if there were any differences between the different groups since the source of these definitions had seen differences between the 3 groups (AS, HFA, SD) IRL groups.

At this moment:

AS - 61% think like HFA, 39% think like AS
HFA - 50% think like HFA, 50% think like AS
PDD/NOS -100% think like HFA, 0% think like AS,
SD - 43% think like HFA, 57% think like AS

The biggest paradox is that, in the diagnosed people, the group where less people "think like HFA" is... the HFA themselves.

My answer: SD, think like HFA

Not a paradox at all, TPE2. HFA and AS are the same thing except for early childhood history.

Diagnosed with AS, and from the reasons given:

- Being unable to find the spot in a conversation to start talking

- Just don't want to say anything, either because they feel no desire to participate or because they are content keeping their side of a conversation internal

Besides that, I hardly ever think in words, and it is usually more trouble than it's worth to work my thought-to-speech translator.

Voted other.

DX'd AS. But I fall into both buckets you describe. Depends on the topic of conversation, and who is having the conversation.

This is a little silly. There really is no difference between HFA and Aspergers and to say that aspies are quiet to avoid making mistakes and HFA's are quiet because they don't feel like speaking is quite presumptuous. What about severely autistic people who are highly talkative? Do they think like aspies?

The expression of all autistic spectrum disorders are different for everybody who has them so this question (while it's fair enough to ask) is a little pointless in my opinion.

Incidentally, I would say that I'm both HFA and AS because to me, AS and HFA are just different names for the same thing.