pschristmas wrote:
Lene wrote:
pschristmas wrote:
Perhaps she could move close to you if she lives in another region..
That's a good idea, but the OP would have to offer to pay for her accomodation and transport for it to be fair. After all, she's doing him a favour by helping out.
I disagree. If the mother is offering to move anyway, it's a free offer for which the OP owes her nothing except thanks. If she doesn't wish to move, then she doesn't have to.
True, I shouldn't have said he
has to pay for alternate accomodation. But if he is prepared to accept her help, it would come across as very ungrateful if he refused to either put her up in his own home or pay for her to stay somewhere else. Actions speak louder than words, so 'thanks' rings a bit hollow in that scenario.
If money is an issue, then he should let her stay with him and cope as best as he can. If he cannot bring himself to do that, then I don't see how he could accept her help in good conscience, and he would be better off refusing it.
(sorry eb31, this has got a bit abstract. I'm not suggesting that you would behave like that.)