How did your teacher's deal with bullies?

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Ariela
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24 Dec 2010, 4:52 am

When I was in school, I tried my best to ignore bullies, and hide my social isolation but teachers took it upon themselves to provide me with the social skills I "needed" to deal with bullies and they created an anti bullying program, where they had us play stupid role play games. This only drew more attention to me and the bullying got worse. After that the bullies got violent. Anyone have that experience?



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24 Dec 2010, 6:18 am

Here is how my teachers dealed with bullies: some complitly ignored the issue, some WERE bullies, some wanted to put me in a special home/looney bin BECAUSE i was bullied. Then i started in a special class for kids with aspergers and i got complitly blown away: They were no bullies there!! ! Some kids could do this typical aspie thing of being painfully honest, but there were no intent to hurt anyone.
And i agree, those roleplay things are stupid. How can teachers seriously believe bullies will stop if you just say stuff like: 'please stop bulliyng me, i makes me feel bad'. Bullies WANT you to feel bad. I mean, duh!


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24 Dec 2010, 6:35 am

Teachers passively enabled it. Or actively participated.

When I was in grade school, I saw teachers look the other way and completely ignore what was happening. Their favorite mantra was always "it's their word against yours." But somehow self-defense meant immediate punishment.

Some teachers would join in on the bullying. I had one who liked to single me out in class and attempt to make me look stupid, would ask me pointless questions that no one could answer but seemed like they'd be obvious. I had others as well, but that one stands out most in my mind.

Sometimes I'd be told there must be something I did to provoke it. Sometimes I would be told that if I ignored them they'd leave me alone. Or that they're actually afraid of me. None of these, of course, were true.

I do not believe there was any intention to prevent bullying.



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24 Dec 2010, 6:43 am

Primary school teachers ignored it, or made a pointless "that's not nice!" comment, and let it continue.

Teachers at current school have come down hard.


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24 Dec 2010, 7:02 am

I tried to ignore it...Didn't help. Teachers didn't do crap. I kinda didn't want them to do anything though because I thought it would be embarrassing. I didn't want to make it known to the whole class that I was a spineless little kid who got bullied by that fat stupid piece of crap. Everyone was probably thinking that anyways :/


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24 Dec 2010, 8:02 am

They did absolutely nothing. Ignoring it was their best policy. Even after 1999.



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24 Dec 2010, 8:04 am

for the most part, my teachers were enablers. They either took the "boys will be boys" attitude, or told me to "ignore them and they will get bored" --thats the biggest lie ive ever been told, when i ignore them they just try harder.

I must give credit to my fourth grade teacher, she first suggested that i have aspergers, this was back in 1996, when hardly anyone had heard of it, especially in a small city in maine.

I even got detention in eighth grade, even though i was the victim, i was considered "part of the disruption". My 8th teacher was so old school, i got detention for getting up during class to sharpen my pencil without asking permission, i got another one for smart-assing when i told her i didnt understand what the problem was.

Then freshman year, i had a special ed teacher who flat out told me and my mother- there is no such thing as aspergers, hes just looking for attention. I ended up repeating ninth grade because he graded me one point below passing for the year.


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24 Dec 2010, 8:38 am

This thread should be posted in a newspaper or school bulletin board I swear. The things I'm reading make me sick with anger. It's too true that teachers ignore bullying because they feel ill-equipped to handle it. I once even had a stupid history teacher crack a joke at my expense when some kids in the class bullied me. She chuckled and said delightedly, "They don't seem to like you very much, do they?" I always thought she was a bit of a racist old hag though. Another time, when I told a co-ordinator that 2 girls in my class were bullying me, her 'solution' was to call the girls up to her office and ask them in front of me if they were bullying me. Of course they told lies and the situation got worse after that because now I was nicknamed a "dibber-dobber". Teachers fu**ing suck.



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24 Dec 2010, 9:18 am

They did nothing. As posted in another thread, one vice principal dealt with a bully giving me a black eye and me not doing anything back (not even name calling) by putting me in all day detention and making excuses for the bully for fear that someone might make a racial issue out of if if both of us didn't get some sort of punishment. (Personally I think she was a racist and wanted to punish people with my skin color and make excuses for the behavior of the bully because the bully was the same race as her.)



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24 Dec 2010, 9:29 am

My teachers did nothing, so I learned how to fight very dirty. That eventually solved the problem. After breaking a few wrists the torment stopped.

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24 Dec 2010, 10:45 am

I was never bullied in the special education classes but the other classes I had to take like art, industrial arts type classes, home ec(in 7th-8th grade), gym, and anytype of assemble the teachers ignored what they were doing to me I knew they saw what was happening they would look up slightly then look back down quickly I guess so they could say they did not see a thing. The worst are the ones that involved the teacher laughing at me when I getting messed with which gave the bullies a little more bravery to do or say even worst things. :roll:


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24 Dec 2010, 11:51 am

At my secondary School (A rather unique School) the customary procedure for dealing with misdemeanour's was to make an announcement at a mealtime and the boy in charge would take in suggestions and when agreed award the appropriate punishment. In the case of bullying this was usually resulted in the bully having to give the victim 6d from there pocket money (6d is old money UK and was enough to buy a bar of chocolate). One weekend I received so much pocket money I was asked to give half of it back in the form of a lot of sweets to the very bullies who had paid me it!
After this when I brought up bullies at announcements unless it had be very serious (I had another black eye or broken teeth) it was not taken seriously.

Another time I boy had broken a tooth because I looked at him The headmaster heard of this and expelled him - a very rare event, but from my perspective all this did was make me even more unpopular as I was blamed for getting a very popular boy expelled.
Many ways were tried to reduce bullying, some might cause a temporary reduction for a few days but none ever really worked.

Yes I can't make any sense of it either.


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24 Dec 2010, 12:35 pm

In elementary school, the teachers helped me deal with the bullies by punishing them. In junior high, they turned a blind eye towards the bullying. They didn't even do anything when I was subject to an extremely homophobic letter which was written after I had professed my feelings towards my best friend. I feel like the public school system failed me.



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24 Dec 2010, 12:46 pm

My teachers, did nothing. I was the weird kid who read most of his time in the library to hide from the bullies. I swear on my grave I never lied about anything. But when it came to authority, I'd report a kid, the principal or vice principal would do nothing. They would tell me how they talked to the other kid and listened to my story and didn't know who was lying.
I was sexual harassed, yes even as a male, I reported it. Nothing ever went down, nothing was discussed. I'd tell teachers about the bullies and their response was always "we're on your side, just tell us when something happens". This was just some line for me to feel safe, and what really happened when I reported it to the teachers, "sorry we have to go with majority on this".
Then of course I was bullied by the librarian, yes that's right my sanctuary was disrupted when a librarian started bullying me. One time I went to go check out a book and one of the kids who makes fun of me was muttering and making fun of me in the line. The librarian told me to stop talking, I don't sound like a girl or I hope to god I don't. The bully still kept fussing at me and the librarian hissed at me again. I told her I don't sound like a girl and that I'm not the one talking. She then kicked me out.
Another time a friend[my one and only] left a book on the bench and I was going to return it to them, but the librarian found it and said I used my friend to check out a book that I couldn't check out. She then kicked me out of my sanctuary for three months. What right did she have to go through my stuff? How did she find that book in my bag anyway?

My public school life was a living hell and I'm glad its over.



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24 Dec 2010, 12:53 pm

Encouraged them and told me it was my fault I was being bullied


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