People "Give You a Hard Time"

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It drives me CRAZY when people 'give me a hard time'. Two people this week have purposely annoyed me and then just said 'Awe, I'm just giving you a hard time!'
Why? does it look like I'm enjoying it? Am I supposed to find it funny that you are criticizing me and purposely p*ssing me off?!

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I hate it when people do this. Joking is one thing but acting like a brick wall or playing dumb annoys me. I just ignore them.

It kind of depends on who is doing it. If it's people I don't know, then heck yes, I get all mad when they 'give me a hard time.' They don't know me; what gives them that 'right?'

My co-workers do this. I've known them for six years, and I've learned to take it as a sign of affection rather than mean-ness. They kid each other, and they're including me in it. It's hard for me to reciprocate without being a total idiot about it, but sometimes I try, and they seem to appreciate it.

Consider the source, I guess.

The excuse irritates more than the action itself. It only makes their behavior even worse with the ridiculous "just giving you a hard time" tag on the end. Why is it acceptable for them to do that to me but I cant do the same to them? Sigh

When I was younger, I really hated this and it'd push me into meltdown or shutdown territory quickly, because people just don't let up.

Nowadays, I still hate it, but I am better able to cope with it. It also happens much less frequently.

One of the guys forgot that there was a 17gauge needle in his arm and I was who was going to be ripping very sticky tape off his arm, as well as taking that needle out. (I'm a phlebotomist) I may have ripped that tape off a little harder than usual.

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I don't think I've had this.

I don't get "joked with" bullying, I just get malliciously bullied, where they actually WANT you to upset you. I think the first would be easier to cope with personally.

Ask them if they would like to be kicked in the nuts, and then claim you are just giving them a hard time. It has a double meaning too

This kind of behavior really gives me problems. I can understand why people enjoy teasing and being teased, but I can' t do it properly. If I try it, it never comes out right, so I mostly keep quiet and let them have their fun.

I see other people joking and laughing and teasing with eachother, but whenever I try to joke just like they do, they always seem to take me literally. I use the right tone of voice, and I say the right thing, and I find the right time, but they still seem to think I mean it literally. I think it's because I don't joke with people often, hence they don't used to me doing these things. Or it might be because I'm quite a serious person - even though I do make people laugh. But I am not a literal thinker, though. I always know when somebody is joking, and I give out the right reaction to it. Actually, I think I am quite the opposite of literal thinking. When people are saying a nasty remark to me and are not joking, usually I laugh and think it is a joke - until I realise their type of mood straight after, and then I feel stupid for laughing....
I don't know, it's all complicated. I think people have got to spend a day or two with me, to keep track of the way I behave socially around other people, then get them to explain on the internet what they have come up with.

Sometimes the degree of my socialising and communication all depends on different circumstances in lots of little categories, which is why I can't really explain what I am really like around people. My social behaviour depends on what mood I'm in, what mood they're in, what type of people they are, what environment I'm in, what we are talking about, what their intentions are or will be....lot's of different little reasons.

When I was younger, I use to tolerate it when people were giving me a hard time and using the excuse that they were only joking or teasing.

Now days, I don't accept it or tolerate it. There is no excuse for this kind of behavior, it is what it is, abuse. And the people who do such things really need to get their s**t together because they're only telling on themselves and how f****d up they really are.

There are too many people out there who don't do this to others around them, every one of you deserve better than to be treated like that. So please don't accept it or tolerate it anymore either.