Did I react the right way?

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This was a while ago (about 8 years ago) but i think its important to adress these issues because many kids with AS may have experienced this.

When I was 13 I did not have many friends and i would often go down my local park to play basketball by myself. Usually the park i hanged out at was a breeding ground for troublemaking teenagers who sat in circles shouting abuse at certain people and doing drugs. Obviously as well i was a lanky awkward teenager with poor cordination and motor skills becuase of my AS so I was an easy target for abuse. One teenager shouted at me "Get some friends" i then sweared at the older teenager and told him to "f**k off" and then i cycled away before things got worse. A similar incident happened a few months later when i was playing basketball with my younger brother and the same teenager shouted "I see you brought a friend with you this time" I totally lost it again and started shouting at them. I should probably be thankful nothing terrible happened becasue the teenager i argued with was with a bunch off other friends a few years older than me who probably took drugs. I would often use basketball as a means to relax and escape my problems

When I turned 14 a few moths after these incidents i was in MacDonalds with my mother and my brother. As I left MacDonalds this teenager from my school shouted at me "Look its the dick who plays basketball" I then just walked out of macdonalds but just gave a nasty stare to one of the teenagers (there were three of them).


Do you think i reacted the right way in these sitautions or not? I should be grateful as well those teenagers who were not nice to me in Macdonalds did not approach since they went to my school and were 2 years older than me.

Do you think i reacted the right way in these situations or not?

I would say the way you reacted is not surprising since people like that try to get others to react like you did. That's a bully's thing. It's what they do best. But you could have definitely handled it better. Lashing out usually escalates a situation. Escalation usually leads to bigger problems.

how come the guy in macdonalds said that to me?

Cause he was a dick.

Yeah true. teenagers are teenagers

He targeted you to get a rise out of you and because you played basketball alone and not with others. Although he could also have made fun of you if you had played with someone else they deemed uncool.

I was a bit cocky back then as well and usually started fights with a lot of kids in my school etc......