Coming out and admitting a crush HELP

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Yesterday, I told my friend I liked her. I almost cried when she said that she still viewed me the same way she did before. She told me today that she had suspected it for a while. I know she won't like me the way I would with her, which for some reason pains me even though I knew all along that it was true. I'm not out to my family, so I'm also struggling with acceptance from them. They seem pretty judgmental. I'm misunderstood as it is. I'd hate it if they found out sooner than they were ready to accept it. I'm starting to wonder if the girl knew I liked her before I came out to her (I told her I was gay months ago).

unrequited love sucks big wind [when it's unrequited]. it almost makes one want to chop-out that part of one's brain.

Well THAT helps a lot.

sorry, it was not my intent to offend you. sometimes, commiseration is a cold comfort.

Meh, it's unrequited. But what can you do?

Of course it hurts like hell - it always does, but you have to find a way of getting past it.
It's also an unfortunate fact of gay love that, when unrequited like this by someone who is (I assume) straight, their perception of you can and sometimes does change irreversibly.

Well, I think that it is better that it is all out in the open between you.

You have no control over your attraction to people, and your friend has no control over her sexual orientation. As much as romantic comedies like I Think I Do give us hope that the straight friend we each have a crush on is actually gay deep down inside, the truth is that is not how it is.

But now you aren't carrying it around as a bit secret. She knows and, from what you describe in your post, is quite prepared to carry on with your friendship. You will have someone to confide in, and someone from whom you don't have to keep secrets. She is someone who can be there to help you when the inevitable days come that you will come out to your family members in turn.

It hurts when your affection isn't reciprocated, but I will tell you (though you might not believe it) that a good friend is far more important than a girlfriend or boyfriend.

I think the moral is do not admit a crush. Evey single time I did that; the friendship went to hell after but then again I probably couldn't get a date if I was the last guy on the planet so they may of been afraid