Would you date a guy that lives with his parents?

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We could always use my place but if they had a full time job and not going to school I would be worried if they planned on growing up. Moving out on your own and being the sole person to keep yourself afloat puts a new perspective on life and whats important.

Yeah, however if that is the case it would be cool if their parents are cool people and we'd be welcome to hang out there, but if not then me and the hypothetical dude still living at his parents house would just have to find other places to hang out.

I was on my own since age 17. I have owned 3 different homes, raised 4 children and 3 step children (treat them as my own). Last house I bought was next door to my mother. She was and is getting on in years and has a heart condition. My ex couldn't deal with me taking my mum to doctors appointments, shopping, etc. My mother would make them weeks in advance after checking out what I had going on first.

Long story short, my ex kept pulling at the last moment things she wanted me to do. So what is more important? Taking her out to the bars (I hate bars) or taking my mum to her appointments well in advance? This and a few other issues destroyed my marriage as I was the unreasonable and uncaring one. My ex subsequently found herself some playmates to spend time with whilst I cared for my mum. I won't elaborate further or need to.

We split over other issues (I had enough) sold house and parted ways. I moved in with my 79 year old mum at the time and have been caring for her since. She is now 87 and in very poor health.

Dating? Around here they hear I am living with mommy and that ends that. I quit trying as it isn't worth the hassle.

Edit: So for all the ladies I have gotten to know, they WON'T date a guy who lives with his parents. Regardless of the circumstances. -sigh-

well the majority it seems like that

Yes.

I'm 32 and currently live at my parents house. I've been here for 2 years or so now. There are a lot of people my age living at home with their parents around here.. so many that it's not considered really very odd at all. House prices are through the stratosphere here so a lot of young adults have moved back into their parents places to save up some money. There are also a lot of families that come from collectivist cultures so their adults kids stay at home forever.

I know perfectly datable guys that also live at home with their parents. It's just sort of the way it is here. Heck, there are many married couples with kids (from non-collectivist cultures) who move back into one of their parents houses. That's not even a really weird thing here it's become so commonly accepted due to home/rent prices.

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When I moved in with them I was in very rough shape. I was in poor health, mentally/physically, working only sporadically, and very broke. Now my health is about the best it's ever been all around, I've been working and saving money. I could go move out, but I don't mind living here and I'm saving money towards bigger goals. Also, my brother lives a block away and my sister lives several blocks away and my brothers ex lives several blocks away.. and my closest friend lives a couple blocks away, and my best friend lives a short drive away etc. IF I moved out, I probably wouldn't move closer to work and would likely stick around this area just for all the people I like to see when I can. If I move closer to work or to another nearby city it would be more convenient for work/outdoor activities, but then I wouldn't see several people I love very often at all anymore. Hmmm, that may be an inevitable fact of life eventually.. but for now I can avoid it by staying put.

As for dating.. I haven't really done any of that around them. I've only ever had anyone over to the house when they're not around basically. But if I were in a dating relationship with someone it might be a bit awkward having them around at first, but maybe not.. it might be just fine with them. I guess I'll find out if I meet the right guy while still living here.

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That depends. If he is over 30 and still living at home and not making any attempt to become independent soon, that would raise some red flags with me. Especially since I am very independent and moved away from my parents at 19.

this is a joke explaining the living with moms judgement. if you all were in deep trouble with employment. you would ask to be back with your mom for a safe reason.

sucks that California is one of the most expensive states to live in, it costs more than a grand a month even for a 1 bedroom apartment