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I am obsessed with a guy

Its been 4 years now that i have met him

He was on facebook and did not add me. Though he used to like me, used to talk with me on phone and used to meet me outside our class.
we were friends...

i busted this friendship with my clingy behavior and too much of everything.....almost like being erotomaniac.

I cant get him out of my head..........does anyone else face such a problem
any advice

I had a similar "crush" once, with someone completely inaccessible to me. I had to keep reminding myself that my "crush" was not interested in me, and likely never would be even if we were to ever meet. Eventually, I was able to carry on relatively 'normal' relationships with other women. Then I met a woman in person who became my new "crush" and who eventually became my wife.

Yes, I do.
And after trying to delete my memories by deleting and avoiding everything that reminded me of him....I sensed that it didn't help.
It's been 5 years and now I think it's probably useless to try to forget. I have to accept that it was an experience, things happen, people come and go. And probably some experiences, some people are unique and won't repeat themselves ever.
If you've lost the connection once, no matter why,....and you can't reconnect. That's just the way it is.

So like the poster above said....maybe it'll go away the day you meet someone you'll obsess over as you did with him.

I lost my friendship because I don't know how to keep them. I am either too clingy or too distant....
I think in my head that I wish him all the best because he gave me something beautiful and knowing that this beauty exists though I may not reach it ever again, makes me look at the world with different eyes than before.
I compare my experience with him with others I had...and probably will do so in the future.
I don't have any advice other than accepting this as a fatalistic twist of time.

You've probably heard of Coral Castle?
http://coralcastle.com/

Ed Leedskalnin spent 28 years building a castle out of coral for his "Sweet 16". His intention was to live there with her, but it never happened.
That's obsession.

My "obsession" wasn't a romantic interest, just someone I really looked up to and could be myself with. With some perspective, I can see what drew me to him and what I could learn from the experience. I regret losing touch with him, but it was my fault- I ran away.

I do it. Alot. It sucks.

I become fond of someone inaccessible. I fantasize, I obsess. It hurts to know I will never be with them. Some obsessions last a few weeks. One woman I think about nearly every day, and I haven't laid eyes on her in years. I occasionally get an email from her related to my work.

I just don't think I am capable of sustaining a relationship.

I have been infatuated with 2 different girls. I still think they are amazing in pretty much everyway.

I never said it was 2 people at the same time