How many times have you had a crush and suppressed it?

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Personally, every single one of them... I know it wouldn't be sensible otherwise to act on any of these feelings, especially as it's not 'mainstream', and in all likelihood the person isn't attracted to the same sex... but oh, I feel so broken now...

Generally, I've developed social anxiety, so I wouldn't talk to many people anyway, regardless of my feelings for them... but I feel like I've lost so many chances, so many potential lives, left with only miserable loneliness...

Now I don't even feel like I'd be remotely functional in a relationship, so I'm not even trying... and I've similarly abandoned any attempts to hooking up for purely lustful activities since I'd probably end up being a fool...

Well except for the fact that I am strait, I have done the same thing. I do not know if they would be interested in me, and I am too insecure to find out if they would be. So far the ONLY guy to express interest was trying to use me, so that scares me about future relationships (theoretically if there was a future relationship).
I am currently working suppressed crush number 6 in my rather short life.
Good luck for figuring out what to do, as I certainly have not.

At least twice in the last month...

ive never had a crush on anyone, The concept of a crush seems strange.

throat, for me it was more of a beauty thing... not a crush like many people have on celebrities etc. (which, in all likelihood is simply due to their popularity or wealth). I went to a boys-only school and from a class full of males there was usually one or two that I thought were attractive. Then I noticed all their traits, the way they move etc.

I've lost count.

Every single one. Well, before I accepted that I was gay, I sort of developed a crush on a girl (don't ask me how that worked--needless to say, I was not remotely attracted to her body) that I sort of tried to do something about. Turned out she'd been asked out by another guy just before I got up my nerve. Now that I've accepted that I'm gay I realize that was for the best. Crushes on guys I have never acted on and generally view as hopeless (since these guys are in all probability straight). So nothing happens besides my admiring their face and/or body when they're not looking.

This has happened to me once.

Hundred of times.

I've been in love with my best friend since we started school. She doesnt have a clue.

All of them, save one, my only heterosexual relationship. Suffice it to say, that relationship did not end well.

I've surpressed a lot of crushes. I've had the pattern of getting a crush on my best female friends and being too scared to do something about it. I had a big crush on my partner for a long time before we got together, and was scared of showing her my feelings. She stayed with me during the gay pride 2 years ago and then we started dating.

I get the most random and inappropriate crushes. Most of them happen to be on the same sex. I usually avoid people I have inappropriate crushes on.

All but one basically. And im straight so i guess among aspies it's just a normal thing. Just for me i found every crush i had and missed my chance with made the next crush harder to bear. One day you just can't take it any more. It's actually quite liberating to break free and finally tell a crush what you think of them + now it's happened i don't think i'd actually get that again, i think that if i was to have another crush i'd just jump in, except with the benefit of the previous experience rounding off some of my harsher edges. Things like that really are conquerable and from the other side you see just how silly holding back really is. The sooner you jump in the sooner you can start living really, personally i think it's the biggest problem a lot of aspies have, they crush on one person, never resolve it and then they never give anyone else a chance. Get the crush dealt with in some way and then it frees you up, if it doesn't work at least you're free again and with that free and receptive mood you'll increase your chances by quite a bit. Imo.

"For well you know that it's a fool who plays it cool
By making his world a little colder" :).

all of them. they're pointless and dont make me feel good. there is no point in wanting what you can never have.

All of high school. Bad idea. Me and my closeted friend had a lot of fights for no reason I could discern. She also sat on my lap a lot. Nothing going on! We're totally straight, guys! *eye twitch*