Bubbles137 wrote:
I'm asexual too- a friend at uni introduced me to it, she was asexual rep for Pride and was on AVEN (which I haven't joined but keep meaning to), and before that I'd never heard of asexuality. I think I'm aromantic too since I've never had any romantic feelings for people, although I get really strong fixations on women (usually about 15 years older than me) which is like a 'crush' but I don't have any sexual/romantic feelings for them :s really don't understand it. It's like I really want them to like me and want to speak to them all the time, but it's not like I want to be in a relationship with them. Anyone else had that experience? I get it all the time (on my sixth 'crush' since I was 13) and have no idea why. It's usually people who are somehow involved in whatever my special interest is at the time (eg my French teacher, my dissertation tutor at uni, an older student at college on my course etc).
looking for "mommy" maybe? Sometimes when you have a lacking in your relationship with the parent of the sex you are crushing, you might be trying to fulfill that relationship through another person.
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