Asperger's and ridiculously high sex drive

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AlexD
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17 Sep 2012, 6:00 pm

Hi All,

Just thought i would create this thread to see what other people feel and whatnot.
SO basically im a 19 year old guy with Apserger's. I'm also a virgin and I consider myself Bisexual with a tendancy towards attraction to men.

I was just wondering if people are in the same boat as me and have a stupidly high sex drive. I've had sexual urges since 9 years old (No joke) and begun masturbation around 13 years old. I read on a research paper that people with asperger's tend to have incredibly high testosterone levels partially due to exposure in the womb (i might be wrong). particulalry during the teen years, this is quite obvious for some. People think im just saying this to try and fit in with NT teenagers when it's actually the truth. Sorry for the explicity in this post.

Alex D

P.S is it normal to have this high a sex drive when you're still a virgin?



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17 Sep 2012, 6:17 pm

It's very "normal" to have a super-high sex drive when you're 19, virgin or not, Aspie or not. And it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with testosterone in the womb (which is still a contested theory of autism). Someone will be lucky to meet you!



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17 Sep 2012, 6:31 pm

stevesilberman wrote:
It's very "normal" to have a super-high sex drive when you're 19, virgin or not, Aspie or not. And it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with testosterone in the womb (which is still a contested theory of autism). Someone will be lucky to meet you!


Yeah that's the thing.It does seem natural when you think about it. I think i just need to ignore other people to be honest. If i feel comforable with it that's all i should be worried about. I just start to worry when i meet someone and immediatly have sexual thoughts about them. At least, I do suprisingly well to repress it when around my peers. Hopefully this whole sex drive business will start to go down when i get older. Not sure how they would be lucky! I used to worry continously when i was with my ex boyfriend. I was aroused constantly when i was around him and i used to try and convince him to do things. I always feel horrible afterwards like i've used him.



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17 Sep 2012, 10:22 pm

The sex drive will go down as you age -- and you might even miss it. But yeah, it's good to try to be aware of the other person's comfort level and never force or even try to argue someone into doing anything they're not cool with. Good luck!



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17 Sep 2012, 10:49 pm

I'm thankfully glad that those years are over. I've wondered if being OCDish makes it seem so excessive.



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17 Sep 2012, 10:59 pm

welcome to our cool club, AlexD :)



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18 Sep 2012, 4:33 am

As stevesilberman said, as long as you don't force anyone into doing something they don't want to and keep it to the privacy of your room or similar most reasonable people won't be phased by it.

If you're really worried or if you think that it's so much of a problem that it affects your day to day life. For example it prevents you doing things that you should be doing, like working or studying etc. Then go and see a GP and talk to them about it.

As a woman, I reckon that guys have it rougher with that sort of thing.

Everyone has the same problem, even us girls. It's just that no one really talks about it.



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18 Sep 2012, 6:20 am

AliceInAspieland wrote:
As stevesilberman said, as long as you don't force anyone into doing something they don't want to and keep it to the privacy of your room or similar most reasonable people won't be phased by it.

If you're really worried or if you think that it's so much of a problem that it affects your day to day life. For example it prevents you doing things that you should be doing, like working or studying etc. Then go and see a GP and talk to them about it.

As a woman, I reckon that guys have it rougher with that sort of thing.

Everyone has the same problem, even us girls. It's just that no one really talks about it.


Yeah, You guys are definitly right on that one. I always make sure i can contain it and all my friends know im a sensitive and caring person. Like you said, it's about keeping it to a private place with that special person and then everything is fine. Thanks alot though, it's nice to know people share similar opinions and don't judge. :)

P.S one of ex girlfriends broke up with me because i was too "restrained" as i didn't make a move on her on our first date. Weird huh?



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18 Sep 2012, 11:36 pm

Hehe , I have a very high sex drive ....just be careful and think with your brain and not your package...



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19 Sep 2012, 3:03 am

a quality silicone facsimile will keep your package out of lots of trouble, and feeling damned good as well :bounce:



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19 Sep 2012, 8:46 am

auntblabby wrote:
a quality silicone facsimile will keep your package out of lots of trouble, and feeling damned good as well :bounce:


I doubt his parents will let him have that...they probably freakout...



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19 Sep 2012, 12:55 pm

auntblabby wrote:
a quality silicone facsimile will keep your package out of lots of trouble, and feeling damned good as well :bounce:


Whaaaat is that? Are you trolling? ;)



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19 Sep 2012, 12:57 pm

Nexis4Jersey wrote:
Hehe , I have a very high sex drive ....just be careful and think with your brain and not your package...


Exactly. It's important that you respect other's emotions and feelings when it comes too that. I just express my frustrations when alone. Then everyone wins! Yaaay! :)



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19 Sep 2012, 2:04 pm

AlexD wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
a quality silicone facsimile will keep your package out of lots of trouble, and feeling damned good as well :bounce:


Whaaaat is that? Are you trolling? ;)


I am reasonably certainly that auntblabby is referring to the Fleshlight (tm).


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19 Sep 2012, 5:36 pm

visagrunt wrote:
AlexD wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
a quality silicone facsimile will keep your package out of lots of trouble, and feeling damned good as well :bounce:


Whaaaat is that? Are you trolling? ;)


I am reasonably certainly that auntblabby is referring to the Fleshlight (tm).


I had a hunch that was what it was. Yeah tried it and doesn't really do it for me. Find i can't "get off" so to speak.