this is why i only get first dates

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1000Knives
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29 Oct 2012, 10:01 pm

Well obviously don't let yourself get played, but if you're not going to care about the girl you're on the date with, then she's going to do the same.



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04 Nov 2012, 4:01 pm

First of all you are not ugly. whatever issues you are having with dating your appearance has nothing to do with it.
Your profile seems open and honest with some humor so idk why more women are not more interested in it. as for the conversation in your first post I think the girl may have thought you were lying about ur camera issues to avoid sending her photos. she might have been turned off by that little bit of secrecy.
I too agree that you should message a girl for a time before meeting her. I don't think it would be necessary to try and build an emotional connection over the internet, just talk enough to learn some mutual interest and possible topics of conversation so when you do meet in person its not all small talk and awkward silence bc u are complete strangers.
Maybe you also need to pursue the girl a little stronger than u are used to doing. I think most girls expect guys to initiate the calls, dates, etc. Some girls may mistake your politeness as disinterest.


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04 Nov 2012, 10:43 pm

LoriB wrote:
First of all... Even in your posts here you are very negative about yourself. If you don't like you why would anyone else? You need to figure out the qualities you like in yourself and focus on those. My suspicion is you say something like "I guess you wouldn't want to go out with me again" there are those who take the approach of picking apart the qualities they think are negative and pointing them out in hopes the other person says... Oh no... That isn't true. Looks often play a little role in dating. It may get you some initial attention but an ok looking guy can be well sought after by woman and a super hot guy never get a date because who someone is goes beyond physical appearence


Hopefully you read this response and take out the negativity in your profile. That is what I found unappealing not your photos. Your trying to sell yourself to a compatible source. Unless you want someone who dumps all over themselves well, carry on then.