What type of people you attract/ What you don't attract.

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real-life: no idea. i don't normally interact with people in any social or personal context, and it's on purpose

edit: actually, thinking back years ago, i think i can say that the type i could have had a chance with (but just didn't know what to do next) were oddball absent-minded girls (i.e.: adhd). the one girl i ever did invite to a "date date" reminded me a lot of this woman (and even dressed kinda like her to the date, and at home sometimes. bright polka-dot patterns and whatnot ):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0dBi_aYXjuE

she was my former best friend's sister (i knew her since i was 10). she was obsessed with søren kierkegaard, and didn't mind making scatological jokes herself. she did not care what other people thought of whatever she said. she was 20-something, had never had a boyfriend, and didn't seem to care. i'd still be interested in her if i found out she's around and single

i had also forgotten about a friend who seemed pretty enthusiastic about me at one point. i actually had a crush on her. but... her girlfriend seemed jealous of me . she did fit the oddball type as well (definitely adhd), although she was very different anyway. closer to genderless look instead of ultra-girlish, and less absent-minded and more in-your-face instead

the one girlfriend i've ever had also did have adhd herself (and was also bi). and the two friends i'm in touch with regularly (one of which i got sort of close to a fwb situation once. she says "she thinks i have an attractive personality") have adhd too. of all these women i've mentioned (and there have been at least another two or three significant ones who at the very least did like me and definitely did have adhd too), i think my ex was the only one i already knew had adhd before i first contacted her. with all the other ones, it was a "coincidence". i had never even heard of adhd back when i did interact with people socially irl

online: women with self-repression issues. not really a "type" though, just the one thing they have in common. i guess there's an element of "manic pixie dream boy" to my personality. i can't really say much about women i don't attract. i'm normally the one who initiates personal contact, and it's what i focus on. when someone else messages me first (it's happened a couple times), i play along, but i end up losing interest

there was one time when a guy messaged me thinking i was a woman. he got all pissy and paranoid accusing me of lying to him (for telling that i wasn't a woman!) just to humiliate him . that was really bizarre. "am i in the twilight zone here?"

I tend to attract girls who don't mind it that I'm short, not handy, and older.

I don't attract: the "popular" girls, cheerleader types, many artsy types (ironically). I had a crush on quite a few of what may be called the "Goth" type these days. Not precisely Goth--but many elements. No dice!

As far as I'm aware I don't attract anybody. At all. Ever.

so far I only seem to attract bullies, and not mates. so if that is the only option available to me, i'd just prefer to remain invisible.

What I attract generally are either nerdy nerds or old men that are old enough to be my dad ... I guess my youthful appearance brings out the pedophile in them o_o What I don't attract despite what my brother seems to claim on and on with his homophobic rants are butch lesbian women heh. Apparently my gender neutral aesthetic makes them "go after my type" according to him but I've not once been hit on by a female.