Staring girl

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Hello community.I am a guy and i suspect to have asperger.I have scored 174/200 on the test.I am 20 years old and never had a girlfriend.Recently there is this girl in my class whom i suspect she has aspergers too.She usually stares at me.The problem is she has a boyfriend,although she stares at me even when she is with him.She seems conscious whenever i am on the same space as her.The problem is i dont interpret very good the social expressions and her expression is blank when she looks at me.Some suggestion would be greatly appreciated especially from girls.Thanks in advance

She has a boyfriend. Leave it at that.

I think that if she is breaking social rules by staring at you so much, it would be ok for you to break social custom by asking her why she stares at you, preferably when the boyfriend is not around.

yes but i dont think i am able to do this.I am a little bit shy i just hope i am gonna know her friends and then her

Maybe she recognizes you as an aspie too and is curious. (not necessarily in a romantic way)

Staring, especially if it's another aspie doing it, doesn't have to mean some kind of sexual interest.
Embarrassingly enough I've done this to the point of freaking out a guy I had heard was also diagnosed with Asperger's, a few years back. It was just very fascinating to see another (allegedly) diagnosed aspie, but as he was very quiet/disassociated there was no way to talk to him even when we were at the same parties.
Obviously she's curious about you on some level, but I don't know why. Staring can range all the way from showing hostility to flirting.

She might not be aware of it

She might want to be your friend.

She might be trying to figure out if you have AS.

She has a boyfriend, just drop it.
Don't be "that guy".

Women always have a boyfriend, the minute they finish with one, they are already going out with another, this would imply that they have to have a boyfriend, but exchange them whenever one they prefer the look of comes along, which in this instance might be you.

If not the above, they certainly must have a waiting list of suitors, so best to ensure you are on it in advance.

Maybe you could say to her, "Look, I know you already have a boyfriend, I just cannot help feeling their is something special about you, if your circumstances ever change, maybe you would consider talking to me further?"

If she does like you, she will either put you on her list, or maybe even decide to move up a model.