How does one go about finding a partner when disabled?

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18 Oct 2013, 2:07 am

I'm 24 years old, disabled, and have never had a significant other. I never even dated, and missed out on the whole teenage experience. I have nothing to offer anyone, but I am a very lonely person and longing for love and companionship. What the hell do I do?

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18 Oct 2013, 2:13 am

well, disabled how? Wheelchair? Cerebral palsy? Deaf? Anything glaringly obvious?

I'm 40, disabled (physically due to "fibromyalgia" and also under autism), never dated/relationshipped, and I'm at the point where if nothing happens in the next ten years that it was never meant to happen. And quite frankly I don't know what to do, either.

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18 Oct 2013, 2:22 am

You could try joining support groups offline or online for other disables & you might could meet a girl who's also disabled.

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18 Oct 2013, 2:27 am

Try with disabled girls.

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18 Oct 2013, 8:48 am

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FXL65Nd_O1o[/youtube]

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18 Oct 2013, 12:53 pm

They do have disabled dating sites online. Here are a few.

http://www.disabledpassions.com/

http://www.whispers4u.com/usa/

http://www.dating4disabled.com/

http://disabilitydating.com/

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20 Oct 2013, 9:03 am

I feel you, TS. I can imagine that I can feel quite depressing and draining to try and find someone when you are disabled.

Do you have preference for disabled or non-disabled people?
I think the datingsite is a pretty good advice. Or, depending on your handicap, you can try a sport or activity organized for handicapped people (if you like sports). This way you can meet other disabled people in meat space if you feel more comfortable with this. A matchmaker could be an option.

Your topic reminds me of these series

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLC4A-gVMkE[/youtube]
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ztITGH30pdY[/youtube]

I thought that was really inspiring to watch

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20 Oct 2013, 9:23 am

indydefense wrote:

...I have nothing to offer anyone...

Although things might be very difficult for you, this simply cannot be true as long as you have a pulse. Believing the above to be true really won't help you.

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20 Oct 2013, 9:32 am

I've got a friend who dates a guy in a wheelchair.

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20 Oct 2013, 11:49 am

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64Ixzp94ksw[/youtube]

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20 Oct 2013, 11:56 am

Cody...that was funny, but...you know...ehem...

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20 Oct 2013, 11:33 pm

indydefense wrote:

This makes me incredibly sad and I know it can't possibly be true.

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23 Oct 2013, 10:42 pm

You know, I ask the exact same thing, only I'm 18. I'm an aspie that REALLY wants love, and I have realized that I can either conform to NT standards (which is painstaking for me), or date someone else who is an aspie (which I prefer). It's a shame that so many girls easily fall for the wrong people without considering the guys who really care (like me). I have, slowly but surely, been able to discern what my type is and what they look like and what their personality is like.

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