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Hello everyone. I have a question regarding social communication:

Is a person with aspergers unable to keep a conversation going? I know how to do it since I read about it and I improved my skills from that point but keeping a conversation going is the only thing I can do socially and I usually only ask questions about the other person otherwise I don't know how to interact. Also I'm 16 years old which means that I'm learning the social skills at a early age, will that prevent me from being diagnosed with a form of autism because I know how to interact?

Sincerely, Quantum.

Not on the same topic often, but I can switch from topic to topic ok and I can tell stories alright.

Depends on who I'm keeping the conversation going with.

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I can only keep a conversation going as long as I can speak abot a subject of my interests with a specific person.

Not incapable, no. If I can learn computers, math, or writing, then I can learn people. They're not magic and they follow systems, too.

Im an excellent listener...

When I am able to speak about subjects that presently interest me (presently Norfolk coastal bus routes and rides (not inner city ones), sharks and playing piano) or past interests (of which I have had many) but otherwise no. I can ask questions about the person but tend to struggle to keep it up. Brain wants to wander off and do it's own thing unfortunately and I am not an overly social person anyway. I kind of resent society for trying to force me to be social when I don't feel like it.

I don't mind being social when I am in that kind of mode, but my passions are more precious to me than hours of company and social chit chat (unless they want to join me on a bus ride) and I tend to need my alone time to recharge anyway.

Only a few people over the course of my nearly 40 years on earth have let me ramble on about my passions, unfortunately.

It has always confounded me, but with a few exceptions, although I desire bonds in my life and a life partner, I do not usually wish to be social. It is strange. In short I want friends/bonds but don't want to have to socialise most of the time!

I can have conversations about my interests, but they usually still involve long, awkward pauses.

No. Even when I'm talking to others about interesting topics, I stray off into awkward territory.

It depends on:
-the topic
-who I am talking to
-my mood in that particular moment
-if I have taken my ADD med or not
-where I am

Depends entirely on who I'm talking to and what the conversation is about.

It depends on who I'm talking to, though I try to not initiate conversation as much as possible.

To a certain extent I can but I have trouble with this. There are often awkward silent pauses in my conversations and the other party has to continue the conversation eventually. On the other hand, sometimes I talk too much and talk over the other person. As my mum says, I have trouble with the rhythm of conversations.

It depends on who I am talking and about what. I think I can be a bit repetitive sometimes and steer a conversations to things that interest me which may or may not be of any interest to the person I am talking with. If my social life is any way indicative then I suck at it.

If the conversation deals with an event I was involved in or care about, then I may never stop talking. Same goes for books, movies, TV and such.

A person with Asperger's technically can't have a normal conversation at all. So keeping one going is kinda moot.

(Now, going on and on about a set topic as if the other person is a talking post, yeah. Providing answers to questions? Yeah. Lecturing? Yeah. None of that is a social conversation though.)