If you tell them your an aspie they will dump you!

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Well sometimes it might be my INTJ personality type which is not the most compatible with most NTs. Sometimes I just feel like I have to hide myself for relationships to work because there are still a lot who do not understand and instantly assume high maintinence. Sorry for the generalizations of NTs I just get frustrated at times I just wish I could open up but fear rejection because of it and it usually results in that. It hurts it hurts a lot and I try to change myself to try and fit the expectations of others but it is emotionally draining.

Depends. If they aren't an awful person, they won't be bothered by it.

I don't think I've met anyone that has been bothered by the fact I have aspergers. If they're bothered by me, its something unrelated.

If someone dumps you - turn around and thank them profusely for saving you from months or years of unsatisfactory or even painful life. And then go on with a skip hop and jump in pursuit of someone more suitable. Or not. I am not the boss of you.

I don't really think that NT's who we can get along pretty well have any issues with our behaviour because they know that this is our nature and they know how colourful and amazing it is. We're awesome. They just tend to get mildly amazed and curious at first, but they handle it. Give some more details on the subject if this isn't the case. I'm interested in hearing your thoughts about this, pal.

I've dated quite a few women through a dating service now, all NT's. I've always been honest and up front about having Aspergers, because I don't want them to accuse me of tricking them, or hiding my true personality. I don't want them to have any reason to accuse me of decipt of any kind.

So far I've heard some very strange and suspicious reasons why they don't want to have a second date with me. None of them were because they didn't like me.

So, it wouldn't surprise me in the slightest to believe this is common.

But at the same time, Austism is not understood by the majority of the population.

Maybe people are assuming that having AS is a huge deal because you bring it up so early in the relationship. That mixed with most people not really understanding AS leads them to get scared and confused, and they don't wanna deal with those feelings and bounce.

Some people might, but if they do, they're probably not the type of person you'd want to be dating in the first place.