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02 Sep 2015, 7:49 pm

beakybird wrote:
I personally believe the word "slut" to not be as rude as it once was. While, it's certainly each person's preference to decide for their own, the fact is female promiscuity is far more accepted than it was a few generations ago. When I hear a woman referred to as a "slut", I more visualize a woman who is very uninhibited sexually. This could also be promiscuous, but could also just be a woman who's very skilled and diverse in the bedroom. I would use the term "whore" to explain an overly promiscuous woman. But I guess its semantics and personal ideals.

But reporting the guy over that would be a word nazi, cmon. I say this as a very fowl mouthed person who thinks people are WAAAAY to sensitive about words. So maybe Im too biased.

I'm not sure about the word slut because I'm not a native English speaker, but it seems rude to me. Btw the guy was already calling them sluts early in this thread, before his experience. I don't really have anything against casual sex, but there's no need for such a foul language here, especially since, as others pointed out, it can be quite hypocritical.



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03 Sep 2015, 5:56 pm

gth584 wrote:

The party thing is where im a lost. I havent been to any parties with alcohol so idk how this works. Do i drink and make casual convo with some girls until one of them wants to **** me? What am i supposed to do?

Idk about it being right or not that im still a virgin. Id like to experience sex but as long as i get laid before 20 i'll be happy.


Try to make friends with circles that have girls in them and don't try to think about sex too much, or they'll think you're weird if u blurt it out too soon. If u want to understand female sexuality, read some romance books. You'll find that they like things to build up gradually. With guys, we can just f**k right away. Thats why porn doesn't have a story line. Women need pretext though. Theres a kind of formula, and it can help u feel the situation out.. They like commitment, a guy who listens and is observant. You can kind of tell if a girl fancies you or not too. Try to make sure the girl likes you beforehand too., as much as you can. I wouldnt feel so pressured to lose virginity though. I think the culture puts way too much emphasis on this. but find someone you're really compatible with, who smiles a lot when your around, laughs at your jokes, shares interests, and take it from there. Again, don't blurt too much out at once. Ive been with girls that are easy, and you really don't want this. These kind of women are trouble. You can get roped into something you dont wanna be in. Some of them are really needy as hell. Where a condom too, and read all about its proper usage well before hand. There is indeed a wrong way to use them. Just a few minutes of research on this could help enlighten you immensely. The last thing u want is being stuck with a crazy or incompatible woman through a kid.