Superficial-friendship thread

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Autistic people often have deep friendships, but wouldn´t it also be nice to have a relationship without a strong binding? A person you can tell about your problems at work or school and if the person wants to borrow money, you can instantly dump them? You can use the quick optional expressions below for quick maneuvering. This thread is a platform, where you can interact and make or terminate superficial friendships

I think it´s not a bad idea, sensitive people also can profit from having things, that they can take lightly for a change

Optional expressions:
request <name> ..........request a person to be a friend
approve <name> ..........approve a request
decline <name> ..........decline a request
instadump <name> ..........dump a friend
vacation <date> ..........claim that you are on vacation and are therefore not reachable

instadump made me laugh

Dude you need to turn this into an app. I would break my phone hitting the instadump on most of my "friends". LOVE IT!! !! !

Ok I´ll make a start
-request everybody in forum

No sensitivity in the thread? But thats just the point, to counter too much senstivity

-decline syzygyish
-instadump syzygyish
-sendtomilitaryschool syzygyish
-blockonfacebook syzygyish

Hello, there might be some misconceptions about my thread. I just want to clear things up before I engage

It is not a Facebook friendship?
I don´t really know what a fb friendship is, but it seems to be foremost a technical state. My friendship is an agreement, we make a "friendship", but at the same time the bonding is not strong, as stated. It´s like when two people meet because of their work, like a plumber and a carpenter, and they might understand each other really well, and people often have love for each other, but at the end of the day they might part permanently, that is understood. We might have sympathies, but no strong binding. Of course that could change, if mutual interest

It means that you are abusing the friend?
No, that´s not how it is meant to be

Why the agreement, it could happen naturally?
People are mostly a bit awkward and unsure about what the potential friends position might be, but with a declaration it is official and you are just doing what is expected if you engage behaviorally in a fashion like a longtime friend would.

Is it for everybody?
No, surely not, and was not meant to be. The whole structure of the introducing post was supposed to reveal what it´s about, i. e. "instadump" should be warning enough.
But i can imagine that certain people here could benefit from something like this, learning to take people less serious, maybe even for a good cause. Maybe somebody would like to an aid-worker, but the social interactions would stress them too much, and therefore they would maybe redraw or get exhausted´, not be able to make "rational" decisions. A bit of training could help

I´ve seen some members post their voices, so this is my voice
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0wmLgzEyByy

This is my voice again but different content and in a bad welsh accent
http://vocaroo.com/i/s01FqVZEmPCo
Oh and I meant it´s literally cold outside here where I live

A. This thread is intended to be monopolized by OP.
B. which is actually invisible thread.
C. which is so special to stitch something wrong invisibly..hmm.
D. But I'm seeing with my bare eyes.

A+B+C+D=?

Intended to be monopolized by OP? Would look to me like somebody wanted to make a thread for himself and others (others could interact with others) to interact as described, and - being confronted with a lack of responds - now has to post by himself. Why the negative interpretation? Or trolling, a straw man argument? Or I have misunderstood?

What it may be, inspired by this I sang something, not beautifully sung, but the song is. And I have decided to create a new thread: Sanctuary of love, positivity and happiness

http://vocaroo.com/i/s0E7i6E8euvA

Hi, I was kind of expecting somebody to fire at me at some point, so I thought to myself that the moment has come to dig a trench and put on my helmet, so I was on the defensive and not very analytical in respect to your content

Perhaps one could rather consider me a Carrot-Top prop-comedy audience member
http://y34.imgup.net/carrottop26d1.gif

This already exists in real life. It's called having acquaintances.

- acquaintance-request starkid

Yes, I've had people at work "friend request" me on Facebook. I used to add them to a group called "Acquaintances" that has very limited access to my feed, but now I don't bother accepting. It seems to be a formal acknowledgement of association, and has nothing to do with friendship. I don't know, maybe they view me as a friend. I don't, and they may think that odd, but I'm not going to be sharing private information with them. Oh, they get an overview of the main events of my weekend, they know how many people are in my immediate family, and they have heard some of the music I listen to, plus some film and TV recommendations.

Friendship means being able to share a deep connection. Therefore, by my definition, friendship cannot be superficial, though I may use it as shorthand to NTs to whom the nuances would take too long to explain.