Will I ever date an attractive woman?

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The hottest girl in the room isn't necessarily who you think

I don't even have to read all this stuff, it seems to be the same NT stereotypes as usual, accompained with ND/asexual supremacist ravings. I see plenty good-looking girls with ordinary guys. I don't think I'll keep discussing after this post anyway, because as everybody here knows it's pointless to discuss with you. Also because I think I'll stop posting as a whole, I don't wanna do 10 captchas every time I post something. I'll just be here to respond to PMs.

Yes, this.

I wonder what's the female equivalent to me in term of level of attractiveness - I've thought that an average petite slim girl would be the equivalent type because I AM PETITE AND SLIM too, but apparently, it is not the case:
Obese and even chubby girls, even when they're taller than me, were more likely to be willing to date me.

Why is that? Because the petite girls have more options than the chubby ones, they are desired by short, medium and even tall guys.

When a girl first see you, she would be probably aware whether she can attain someone way better looking that you or not, and her mind would compare you with her other suitors.

So I have a feeling that the equivalence of "level of physical attractiveness" has a lot to do with the number and quality of options.

And I think it also depends on how attractive the girl perceives herself, the more she perceives herself the pickier she would be when it comes to looks.

Something very common I've noticed among Asian and dark African girls is the way they perceive their own looks, a lot of them perceive themselves as way less attractive (which is not the reality). When I tell to Asian/African girl she's attractive (and I never point to ethnicity specific features), her typical response is usually something like "no, I am not" or "no, you're much more attractive" - and some would even bash their own Asian/African features, I've read this may due to racism which may lead to internal racism, and It's not a healthy basis for relationship (perceiving me as hot because I am whiter...etc). :-/

That's not even an answer, rather general ramblings about "supremacist" ideas. FYI, it's not supremacist to discuss differences between NTs and NDs, which you generally seem to have a very poor awareness of.



I don't. Perhaps our definition of "good-looking" (it was "hot", not "good-looking", and thus not the same) and "ordinary" (it was ND guy, possibly nerdy and gamer) differs?

How can I thus improve myself to be a little more attractive to have better chances at women? I'm very willing socially. I may not be great, but I consider myself being a lot better than before.

IMHO, improving socially will not increase your chances (I'm sure people will object to that). You need luck and finding the right woman.

You could also make a lot of money.

I was watching "Housewives of Miami" (no rolling of the eyes please) and all of those women are really good looking with husbands that need to wear a paperbag but make lots of money. (Only two of the husbands look good.) It's gotta be the money that attracts them.

It's a matter of taste. Everyone deserve love and maybe I will speak as clishe but beauty it's not everything.

Is it a real attraction or greedy opportunism?

Do they get horny in bed by thinking of hubby's bank account?

On my local news I have stumbled on this, the marriage between a wealthy man and a known tv reporter.

Whether it's attraction or opportunism is sort of irrelevant -- each person gets to individually decide what is (or isn't) acceptable to them in a relationship. everybody makes trade offs. I've never seen the show, but if pretty women are happy to marry rich men + rich men happy to marry pretty women, well, yay for everybody!

Theres also an argument to be made that being rich is a proxy for many other desirable qualities -- like intelligence, physical prowess, cunning, an ability to influence or some combination thereof. Because those are the skills needed to acquire and maintain wealth (except for people who were born into or inherited money).

o.O

Yeah, well, women are gold diggers. But some women want love, too.

Ok, I have a terrific idea.

I need female volunteers who are bluntly and ruthlessly honest; so I can message them my pics (in private), and the ones I've dated or had crush on in the last 2 years and so + little info of my and their career.
so they tell me whether I am aiming too high or not.

any volunteers?

I'll volunteer Boo - and I'll tell you the truth too.

^ ok nurse, you are in, any more volunteers?
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