why is expressing our emotions hard for us then a NT?
christophelambypie
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I'm not emotionless, i may lack a bit of empathy but always try to understand...
I express my emotions different to NT's and when i try to understand them its in more of a logical sense rather than on some mystical emotional level..
Just because we can be a little different to the norm, doesn't mean that we don't have our own way and it doesn't mean we are any less.
I have trouble expressing myself well. Period. And when it comes to emotions, I can't express them properly at any time.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
What exactly does it mean to express emotion? Yell, scream, shout, cry? That is my definition of it. From my understanding people on the spectrum may not show them right like they might smile when they are upset or laugh when they are nervous. I think it may also mean doing it in a immature manner for example a ten year old girl may be acting like a five year old when she is very upset because she is acting the way a five year old would behave when they are upset. She is expressing her emotions alright but the reason why they may say she has a hard time with it is because she does it inappropriately. Am I right?
TBH I am not sure how good I am at it. I know I act pretty childish when it comes to emotions.
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Son: Diagnosed w/anxiety and ADHD. Also academic delayed.
Daughter: NT, no diagnoses.
Heck if I even know my current emotional state. If there's a word for it, I don't know it. There are times it's clear what I'm feeling because the emotions are strong, but all the other times I'm just completely confused with what I'm feeling. Sometimes this issue drives me crazy, but it is what it is.
How do I express my current emotion? Does aapsdopdfuidejklfshklgklfh make any sense? That's all I can think of. XD
Naturally, that doesn't make me emotionless. And if I didn't have empathy, movies and games wouldn't make me cry so much. This is just the way it is. For many of us. As to why, well I could wave my fingers in the air and say "autism" as if it's some mysterious force, and some might say that's sufficient an explanation (honestly, it's the best I've got) but I'm sure there's someone out there (somewhere in the Universe) who actually knows what's going on. Unfortunately, that person is not me.
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Common sense? Me? Hahahahahahaha no. You're more likely to find penguins in the sahara.
We should adapt - but we should not conform.
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Latest Aspie Quiz: AS - 151, NT - 38 / RAADS-R: 195 / AQ: 38
It's hard to say which is less logical humans or emotions, but regardless the logical, analytical, or simply different mind of the ND has a harder time grasping certain concepts where emotions are concerned. For example, just trying to think about this issue with emotions makes my head hurt
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Me trying to express an emotion:
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In denial that it was a problem until early 2016.
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Stimming, stimming all day long~
Common sense? Me? Hahahahahahaha no. You're more likely to find penguins in the sahara.
We should adapt - but we should not conform.
A life without tea is a life not worth living.
Latest Aspie Quiz: AS - 151, NT - 38 / RAADS-R: 195 / AQ: 38
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
Well all my emotions are layered through a bunch of logical BS is what my ex girlfriend tells me. The real reason behind an emotion is always layered by a defense mechanism. And I guess this defense mechanism comes out in the way I express myself as well.
Except that I am really good at emoting in the Haunted House I work at. But I guess that's a different emotion, I suppose. I don't know how I manage to be scary and creepy. I just am.
is this a cognitive issue or something?
Yes, "they" say that because of a cognitive issue. People who are not autistic are often not cognisant of an autistic person's feelings because "they" lack empathy for autistic people! The ridiculous 'robot' or 'Mr. Spock' stereotypes tell us far more about NT people than they do about autistic people, IMHO.
There is so often the implication that it is only the autistic person's recognition of NT emotions that is impaired. NT people might recognise our emotions better, if only they expended as much effort to understand how autistic people express their feelings, as they expect autistic people to expend understanding how they express theirs.
What's the most basic, simple, clichéd rule of compassion? It's a platitude that get wheeled out all the time. We're told that we should ask ourselves...
"What would I want if it was me?"
Neurotypical and autistic people just don't always get the same answer! When the answer is wrong, the resulting action is liable to be seen as uncaring or heartless by the other person, even if there is a genuine intention to be compassionate.
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christophelambypie
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Age: 1947
Gender: Male
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Location: sussex england
There is so often the implication that it is only the autistic person's recognition of NT emotions that is impaired. NT people might recognise our emotions better, if only they expended as much effort to understand how autistic people express their feelings, as they expect autistic people to expend understanding how they express theirs.
I have thought this for ages!! !
Well said indeed..
is this a cognitive issue or something?
Yes, "they" say that because of a cognitive issue. People who are not autistic are often not cognisant of an autistic person's feelings because "they" lack empathy for autistic people! The ridiculous 'robot' or 'Mr. Spock' stereotypes tell us far more about NT people than they do about autistic people, IMHO.
There is so often the implication that it is only the autistic person's recognition of NT emotions that is impaired. NT people might recognise our emotions better, if only they expended as much effort to understand how autistic people express their feelings, as they expect autistic people to expend understanding how they express theirs.
What's the most basic, simple, clichéd rule of compassion? It's a platitude that get wheeled out all the time. We're told that we should ask ourselves...
"What would I want if it was me?"
Neurotypical and autistic people just don't always get the same answer! When the answer is wrong, the resulting action is liable to be seen as uncaring or heartless by the other person, even if there is a genuine intention to be compassionate.
We are as alien to them as they are to us.
I think a little understanding would go well both ways.
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Diagnosed April 14, 2016
ASD Level 1 without intellectual impairments.
RAADS-R -- 213.3
FQ -- 18.7
EQ -- 13
Aspie Quiz -- 186 out of 200
AQ: 42
AQ-10: 8.8
is this a cognitive issue or something?
Yes, "they" say that because of a cognitive issue. People who are not autistic are often not cognisant of an autistic person's feelings because "they" lack empathy for autistic people! The ridiculous 'robot' or 'Mr. Spock' stereotypes tell us far more about NT people than they do about autistic people, IMHO.
There is so often the implication that it is only the autistic person's recognition of NT emotions that is impaired. NT people might recognise our emotions better, if only they expended as much effort to understand how autistic people express their feelings, as they expect autistic people to expend understanding how they express theirs.
What's the most basic, simple, clichéd rule of compassion? It's a platitude that get wheeled out all the time. We're told that we should ask ourselves...
"What would I want if it was me?"
Neurotypical and autistic people just don't always get the same answer! When the answer is wrong, the resulting action is liable to be seen as uncaring or heartless by the other person, even if there is a genuine intention to be compassionate.
NT's and Aspies want the opposite of each other. That's a theory I came up with anyway.
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Me grumpy?
I'm happiness challenged.
Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 83 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 153 of 200 You are very likely neurotypical
Darn, I flunked.
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