Please Help - I think my ex is an aspie

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The cow one - I would have been out of there and not looked back.

The crying one - that's what I mean by no empathy. Unless he was being an a-hole.

I had enough of that kind of talk from my dad who I think has narcissistic personality disorder and I wouldn't put up with that kind of talk anymore. If I was married, I would definitely get a divorce if I was talked to like that.

ohh I forgot ...it was long distance, one day he told me that he wanted me to have sex with other guys so I could "meet my needs", but that he would never have sex w other girls. ??

He once said that he was trying to read my body language to know if he could kiss me.

That sounds Aspie to me. He sounds like he says exactly what he's thinking.

What exactly are we suppose to do? Lots of us I've touch problems and those who don't hugging a strange woman isn't acceptable. I'm not sure how to comfort otherwise. I'd probably just start crying too

Another thing is most guys are romantic.
I miss girls I'm into after day or so of non communication. After a week I get sad.

Honest truth, I'm rubbish with that stuff too. Don't ask me, I was just giving some true life examples. It doesn't actually bother me if I'm just left to cry it out. I'll get over it soon enough whatever it is. Most women aren't like me though.

At least ask, are you OK? Can I get you a cup of tea?

Silence is fine, shouting at me is not. I prefer my Dad's reaction to my Mum's.

To the OP: How long can you deal with this s**t until you have no self-esteem left? Aspie or not, the guy is not kind.

If he goes to great lengths to see you and then treat you like s**t when you actually meet, I would suspect a personality disorder of the unpleasant kind.

What exactly is so nice about this guy that it makes it worth it to put up with this?

I was going to ask too what is it you like about him?

Does knowing whether he is an aspie actually make it hurt less? Can you really live with this behaviour?

He won't change. This is who he is.

I could never shout at a crying woman. Unless maybe it happen during a really bad argument but i dont know if even then. Women crying makes me feel really sad . Like why are they crying are they ok :'( I'm too sensitive my friends use to say.

I thought my ex boyfriend had AS because he said he did and claimed he got tested for it and they said he had it which they couldn't make official because they only do it for children. Which sounds sketchy because none of it adds up.

But he would say lot of things to me and it eventually brought down my self esteem and he did lot of stuff that was hurtful and I just let it happen because I thought he didn't know any better but it turns out he was a narcissist instead. It just took me either years to realize it.

But there are aspies out there who are jerks and there are aspies out there who aren't jerks. Putting up with abuse because you are giving them the benefit of the doubt is setting yourself up for low self esteem and being in a abusive relationship. Instead I would say you set your foot down and tell them that is not okay and set limits and speak up. Don't sit back and let it happen because you think they don't know any better and wouldn't understand.

And my ex also claimed to have PTSD so I excused his willful ignorance. Okay what if someone claimed to have it and still continued to be a transphobic but then claim PTSD about people who are trans so they continue to not try and understand it and kept saying they have PTSD? That was my ex's reason for how he treated me because he felt I was too childish because his ex called him a pedophile so now he had PTSD and wanted nothing to do with me whenever he felt I was acting too childish so he would just ignore me until he felt I was acting mature enough for him. Yeah his way of controlling me. Typical narcissist behavior. Claim mental illnesses to get away with their abuse. Mine just used Asperger's and PTSD. For years I just blamed myself. Now I don't anymore realizing this was all a game he did.

My Aspie friend definitely shows empathy . . . In fact I would say he is more caring than most of my friends in a really true and honest manner . . .. . Unless it's regarding him and me and our feelings . .. . Then he runs a mile