im Autistic Profoundly deafness life is really hard for me

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my parents told me im great smile with dimples im sure i can make you smile all of you autistic i like see you happy if i dont see someone happy because its personality i feel uncomforable because it feels to me its bad personality i hardly see my autistic sister happy and i hardly talk to her shes silly shes trying copying my sister which is severe social anxiety

I'm sorry but I didn't quite understand what you said. Are you talking about your sister or yourself?

Your English is too bad to be born Aussie. I recommend you getting your grammar fixed. And difficulty is never an excuse to avoid trying.

^ Berabara is profoundly deaf.
Do you realise how incredibly difficult it is to learn language and grammar when you've never heard it spoken?
I think he's doing amazingly well.

Not hearing a language does not mean learning it would be any harder. Stop trying to white knight people Raleigh. Imagine I can write in four language despite not having heard them before.

So far in this thread you have gratuitously insulted both the OP and Raleigh. Perhaps you will now reconsider your comments and apologise to them. I hope so.

B19, are you out of your mind? Can you point out what supposedly is insulting about motivating someone to keep on trying and to clarify that learning a language can function well without ever hearing it?

^ How many profoundly deaf people do you know?
Are you deaf yourself?

It does make it harder.
Children learn language initially by hearing it spoken.
Hearing children learn all the subtle rules of grammar and syntax by trial and error and constant correction and by listening to how others speak, including incidental conversations.
Deaf children miss out on all that.

There is only a small window for acquiring language.
After puberty, that window closes and it's very hard to acquire language after that time.
Unless the deaf person has had intense early intervention, this can set them back quite severely.

It only applies to speaking a language. I work with handicapped teens, some of which are deaf and while their speaking ability is understandably impaired, their writing ability isnt. And these kids write in German, a language that is grammatically more difficult than English. With a mild learning difficulty a person grammar may be flawed but at least comprehensible. I had asked the OP before because the structure makes it seem more like English may be the OPs second language. If you focus on language you will notice a significant difference between a foreign speaker and someone with a learning disability.

Flaming threads is not acceptable behaviour on WP. Gratuitously insulting an OP in the guise of "I'm only trying to be helpful" is a step too far here.

This thread is about the OP and his/her issues, and may be better off in The Haven where support and understanding are the ethos.

wanting your sister to smile more, good on you, berabara, i understand well what you say,

i know an older deaf and mute person, he'd learned some speech, that sounds very musically
he used to drive his french-licence-free car while honking all the time he couldn't hear that but everybody knew when he was coming

and among my french friends, those whom are teachers just need to tell me everytime that i don't speak french very well, as if i don't know, it's very un-encouraging!

OP it is humbling for me to reflect on the combined difficulties you have faced:

Diagnosis Asperger's Syndrome back in 2005
also have Anxiety Disorder, OCD
Mild Learning Disability
Born Profoundly Deafness

I am sending you a big hug and a smile

Hey Berabara,

Don't listen to fools who want to criticize. They are the people who need to learn things.

How's the weather today?

Smiles are contagious and that's a good thing

I congratulate you, Berebara, because I'm sure your learning difficulties are as profound as you say. I have a hard time speaking to people because I'm avoidant because of autism. My brothers and sisters learned to speak like a Yankee, I never did. Up till yesterday someone asked me if I was Jamaican. I'm not, I'm from Trinidad and Tobago.

Now, all that said, what I wanted to point out is I am only mildly autistic and STILL have trouble communicating with people. I can just imagine how absolutely DIFFICULT it is if you're PROFOUNDLY deaf AND autistic.

I think you're doing fine. You're reaching out to us and, believe me, I am completely flabbergasted that someone would chastise you for that. I apologize for him and I'd like you to keep up the good work. You make us proud on Wrong Planet.