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Stupid to even bother seeking advice but what should I do with someone who's made it clear she never wants to speak to me again? Obvious answer, move on, forget, etc. Heard it all before plenty of times and it's healthy to do and all that. Problem is actually doing that. Hard to do when they've been the only person to give a s**t about you in over the past decade. I feel almost invisible to others when they don't need me. Trying to reach out has only got me accused of whining...and yet they complain about much more trivial bs and I don't send them away or call them crazy. You'd think this karma thing would eventually return some good deeds, right? But no, just week after week of loneliness, drinking to try and forget Alanie ever existed. How do other autists cope or are they just lucky to never get obsessed with people? It's been since the end of March we talked as friends.

What happened that caused Alanie to not want to speak with you again?

All you can really do is give this person some space and time and one of two things will happen; they'll stay firm in the opinion they want nothing to do with you, or over time they'll come around and what's making them mad now will seem less significant. I've had people in my life come and go like this, you have a falling out, give each other some space and sometimes bridges can be mended, and sometimes they can't. That's just life I'm afraid.

If you aren't already, make sure you don't have her Facebook, Instagram, etc, bookmarked and don't go visiting social media. Doing so only makes it harder but people do this a lot after a breakup.

I was pretty obsessed with both my ex girlfriends when we were together. I was still pretty obsessed with them & stalking their posts online which made things harder to get over. It was pretty difficult but I gradually started to accept that things were over & we were better off without each other as more time went on. Getting in my 2nd & current relationship helped me move on too. Trying to move on is the best thing you can do.